Anonymous OP 1w

unfortunately i’ve learned that you can’t really control anyone’s actions no matter how much you want to. they have to take action themselves.

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Anonymous OP 1w

you can lead a camel to the water but you can't force it to drink

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Anonymous #1 6d

but i don’t wanna think that way like she’s done everything for me and my family my whole life and now she has like nothing. and she’s amazing cuz she always keeps such a positive attitude everyday i don’t know how she does it but there’s times where she breaks down like last night and it crushes me

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Anonymous OP 6d

i know this bc my mom is the same. she does a lot for my family and always does her best to stay positive even when she’s faced some of the most horrible situations i’ve ever heard in my life. it’s terrible. but she doesn’t want to go to therapy, and i can’t force her. nor is it your responsibility to be her therapist. you can let her know how much it hurts to see her in pain and express that you want her to seek help, but otherwise the decision is up to her.

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Anonymous #1 6d

yea but also i dont know why its hard for me to like talk to her like idk we used to hang out so much but our lives went like downhill and its just not the same but i still love her just as much and idk why im so weird about it. i need to start therapy as well lol its just so expensive

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Anonymous OP 6d

yea i’ve been going to therapy now and im in the same position, our life has gone downhill and the worst part is the ppl who caused the trauma are perpetuating it. and if anything they should be getting help too but again, it’s out of my control. i can’t force them to care about me and my family. we only have control over how we as individuals react. it’s hard to talk about for sure, sometimes doing an activity together can help make it more comfortable to open up

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