LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | the difference between anti-bi straight women vs les4les straight women: i don’t want to date YOU because of YOUR sexuality les4les: i want someone who shares MY experience because I want to feel validated in MY unique experiences with MY sexuality

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LGBTQIA+ 15h

the difference between anti-bi straight women vs les4les straight women: i don’t want to date YOU because of YOUR sexuality les4les: i want someone who shares MY experience because I want to feel validated in MY unique experiences with MY sexuality

Anonymous 15h

Les4les is valid for those reasons, but there are certainly lesbians who are actually biphobic

Anonymous 10h

Yes, and also lesbians are a minority community, which ads a bit of nuance too i think. Stigma against dating bi men is generations old and came out of homophobic propaganda during the AIDS epidemic. The cishet powers that be didn’t see the death of gay and trans people as consequential, and their only fear was that straight people (especially straight white women who weren’t sex workers) might get it, hence the public response being “fear that your husband might secretly be bi”

Anonymous 9h

Actually anyone can refuse to date for any reason…?

Anonymous

#1 15h

absolutely, and i always try to call it out when i see it. but to say les4les is inherently a biphobic is just inaccurate.

Anonymous

OP 15h

Real Too many people think in black and white

Anonymous

#2 10h

While biphobia should not be accepted from any community, we shouldn’t equate a deadly legacy of homophobia that still influences cishet people today (even if few straight women who participate in it understand why they really feel this way) with inter-community fighting: neither biphobia or lesbophobia are okay. Lesbians and bi women have a lot more in common than they don’t. This whole discourse is stupid just love who you love, if someone doesn’t want to date you then date someone else