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LGBTQIA+ 2d
i’m questioning if i’m actually a lesbian after years of identifying as aro ace but i can’t talk to anyone i’m close to about it because one best friend is the reason i’m questioning and the other has always been insecure thinking i like the first more
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Anonymous 2d

don’t stress about the labels, aroace, and sexuality in general, is a spectrum for most people. generally, i’d say don’t base your frame of sexuality on one person, or one instance of attraction. i reccomend looking into creators online who discuss their identity as lesbian or as aroace lesbians, it may help you to discover yourself a bit!

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Anonymous 2d

aroace lesbians exist

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Anonymous 1d

ok wait to clarifying i’m not looking for like validation i’m just lamenting that i can’t talk to my closest friends about something that’s kind of a big deal to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Can you explain?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

aroace is about how you feel romantic & sexual attraction. some don’t feel either at all but some can feel either/or in very specific situations bc both are a spectrum. it exists in all sexualities.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Aroace is a spectrum that includes demisexuals/demiromantics who only feel attraction after establishing a connection with a person (which sounds like op might be, but it’s up to them to decide what labels they like) So someone can be in the aroace spectrum and be a lesbian at the same time

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

yeah I get that and it def sucks 😭 I had smth similar back in high school where I realized I was aroace and couldnt tell my two closest friends because one I had confessed to abt liking her (so it’d sound like was saying “I never actually liked you”), and the other was close friends with my partner at the time & I knew breaking up would mean she’d see her friend go from very happy to depressed for months (which did happen) 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

they both supported me when I actually told them, so a lot of it was overthinking, but it definitely felt like they’d at least see me differently if I told them. and I really wanted to 😭

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