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LGBTQIA+ 18h
Genuine question looking for guidance: I've (m) been exploring being queer a lot over the past couple of years, slowly realizing i've held on to a lot of misogyny that's impacted my relationship with gay romance, and recently have been struggling :/
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Anonymous 18h

My question is, i live openly bisexual now (though i prefer the label queer) and have been with transmasc men and loved it, but don't find the same affection or attraction to cis men :( is this something i should be concerned about? Something about cis men generates a lot of shame for me, and so i recognize that it's likely growing pains coming to terms with my own queer identity. But i don't want to ignore potentially appropriating an identity that i don't actually share, yeah know?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 17h

just be whoever u want to be! use whatever label feels right. u could do some work on the shame and other internalized things u might have and try cis guys again, or u could never try again, and ur sexuality will be just as valid. the queer community’s whole thing is do what makes u happy!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

Thank you for replying! I think this is really just what i needed to be reminded of :) and it helps airing it out in an empathetic space, ty!

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