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Do any gay or bi men here want to get married and have kids one day? Is that a goal you have?

Anonymous 9w

Bi man here, I’d love to be married but I hate children and will never be having any. My two big life goals are to be married and to get my dream job

Anonymous 9w

indifferent abt marriage, if i do find a life partner i might want to get married at some point for logistical reasons and also just to formally commit to each other yk. but i wouldn’t want to have a fancy wedding event. and leaning towards no kids

Anonymous 9w

Yeah, but I want to adopt. Firstly because babies sound like a nightmare, secondly because I think it’s weird that people are obsessed with passing down their genes (it’s giving eugenics), thirdly because I have family medical issues that I don’t particularly want to pass down, fourthly because it eliminates any risk of pregnancy/related medical problems,

Anonymous 9w

Getting married yes but I have 0 desire to have or adopt children

Anonymous 9w

Gay trans man, I want to get married so bad and live in my dream house with my dream partner(s) (one or more, I’m ambiamorous). I do not want kids however because there’s a lot of things that piss me off and I know I’d end up being not the best parent, also I want to live my life my way

Anonymous

#1 9w

Okay. Why do you hate children?

Anonymous

OP 9w

I just do. Never liked them and I have zero interest in having any

Anonymous

#1 9w

Okay. I understand.

Anonymous

#2 9w

Okay.

Anonymous

#2 9w

and finally because the foster care system is absolutely overwhelmed right now and I feel there’s a certain immorality in bringing a new child into the world to live a life that you could instead provide for a child that already exists and is equally valuable and deserving as any other person.

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Anonymous 9w

I mean I have a friend who is a genetic carrier for a painful and fatal disorder with a short lifespan, her choosing not to reproduce and risk someone experiencing that is not eugenics

Anonymous

#7 9w

I didn’t say it is. In fact, I mentioned in my other comment that I don’t want bio kids partly because they’d be at a very high risk for several nasty genetic diseases (particularly 3 different types of cancer). It’s people that are obsessed with passing down their genes that give eugenics. Your Elon Musks, your white fundamentalist Christians with a dozen kids, that kind of thing.

Anonymous

#2 9w

*that same comment, not my other one. Sorry I didn’t check and I wrote these yesterday, not exactly fresh in my brain

Anonymous

#2 9w

yea exactly, not all "family health problems" are built the same. generally people who would rather opt to raise an existing kid than make their own new one aren't eugenicists. Ultimately you know your family better than "#5" on an anonymous app 🫶

Anonymous

#7 9w

I can’t see a #5 on this post, so I assume I blocked them at some point for saying something egregious (I don’t block many people)

Anonymous

#2 9w

oop

Anonymous

#7 9w

Oh they must have blocked me then. I thought I was clear that it’s the obsession with their own genetics part that I take issue with? Not the wanting kids part? On account of saying the word “obsession.” But I guess I can see why that could get misinterpreted.

Anonymous

#2 9w

I don’t understand why 5 interpreted it the way they did though. If you read a comment that says two contradictory things, normally it’s because someone made a typo or you interpreted it differently than they intended. And also: I explicitly DIDNT SAY that people are eugenicist for wanting bio kids. “I think people like pancakes too much” is not the same idea as “pancakes are eugenicist”