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LGBTQIA+ 2w

I'm done with how normalised it is to be transphobic. There are literally men out there that'll straight up say they're not gonna date you because you're trans like that's WILD!

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Anonymous 2w

Yeah that’s not transphobia. No one is forced to date you.

Anonymous 2w

As a trans person, that’s … not even remotely wild. It’s completely normal and okay to not be attracted to trans people — there are some physical differences that are pretty important in a relationship, after all. I can only imagine being with a cis person myself. You can absolutely go about this preference/attraction in a transphobic way but not being attracted to trans people in and of itself is not transphobic.

Anonymous 2w

Hating on people for having presences might be even more wild tbh. It’s only transphobic if it’s done in a hateful way

Anonymous 2w

I feel like not dating a trans person is a personal preference thing because that’s just the same argument of what gender you’re attracted too and we have fought to get where we are with that. Transphobia is literally being hatful and discriminatory towards trans people

Anonymous 2w

There’s trans people who will date only trans people 🤷🏼

Anonymous 2w

I have plenty of friends who are trans who have told me on multiple occasions that they only date trans people and won't get with a cis person. Why can it not be the same the other way around? Most people want someone who can share experiences with them, hence why t4t is so common

Anonymous 2w

No one is obligated to date anyone.

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Anonymous 2w

That’s called a preference hun get over yourself and worry about people who want to date not those who don’t.

Anonymous 2w

Idk, some people are only attracted to certain genitalia. As a bi person I don’t have any preference and it has nothing to do with my attraction so dating a trans person wouldn’t be too different for me. But as long as they are not being hateful others have the right to have their preferences 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous 2w

God damn, the transphobic shit in these comments is really gross.

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Anonymous

#1 2w

*preferences

Anonymous

#2 2w

Dismissing an entire demographic people who would otherwise fit into your attraction is, actually, discriminatory. Not liking an individual? Fine. Dismissing everyone? Not fine.

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Anonymous

#1 2w

Still transphobic.

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Not even close.

Anonymous

#2 2w

You can pretend it’s not all you want, doesn’t change the fact that it is.

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Not at all. A discriminatory behavior prevents you from something you’re entitled to. You’re not entitled to someone Else’s Body. It’s a preference.

Anonymous

#3 2w

Vocabulary and intelligence both matter. Work on that

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Anonymous

#2 2w

Twist those last few neurons all you want, it’s still transphobic to exclude all trans people simply on the basis of being trans.

Anonymous

#4 2w

It is. Quit pushing transphobic shit. You should know better.

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Anonymous

#4 2w

Ty. Common sense.

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Anonymous

#3 2w

Cry about it

Anonymous

#6 2w

Chew on bricks, you transphobic shit.

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Anonymous

#3 2w

it’s not transphobic to not be attracted to trans people. like this is a nonissue irl

Anonymous

#7 2w

in fact MANY trans people will tell you they don’t care if someone isn’t attracted to them bc they’re trans as long as they’re respectful about it

Anonymous

#7 2w

Cool. I don’t care if I’m misgendered, still doesn’t make it not transphobic.

Anonymous

#3 2w

As a gay man, I’m not attracted to vaginas. In fact I find them generally gross physically. That doesn’t mean I have anything against cis women or trans men, I just don’t find them attractive sexually. I also find very feminine features gross, sexually, And pretending I’m attracted to something I’m not doesn’t help anyone. It fact, it can in fact be very harmful. I wish trans men and women the very best, but I am not in the least “transphobic” for not being attracted to them

Anonymous

#14 2w

your preferences are valid but there’s a difference between finding certain features unattractive and finding an internal identity unattractive. there’s plenty of trans men with very masculine features and who don’t have vaginas, or simply don’t want to use their parts during sex (like many cis men). you’re not forced to date trans men, but it’s weird when people would date a cis man and not a trans man with similar circumstances exclusively bc of internal identity. - from not a tguy

Anonymous

#14 2w

and this isn’t targeted at you as a person, idgaf about who you, specifically, decide to date. but there’s so many stereotypes and misconceptions that result in people refusing to date trans men when they’re functionally identical to a cis man they WOULD date.

Anonymous

#5 2w

get what you mean but dating another person in a marginalized community is completely understandable and not uncommon, I know multiple bi/pan/aspec people who will only date other queer people for a het relationship

Anonymous

#15 2w

I used to say I didn’t date trans people before I dated an ace trans woman. I only like vaginas and don’t know if she had bottom surgery or not, but didn’t care since we weren’t using it anyways. So this resonated with me.

Anonymous

#16 2w

And we are still together, three years now!