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LGBTQIA+ 7w
god forbid u have an ounce of internalized homophobia on this sub. sorry not everyone was raised privileged enough to find a support system early on. sorry some of us grew up around homophobes our whole lives. sorry some of us didn’t figure it out as kids
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Anonymous 7w

we’re trying to unlearn. we want help. but it’s so difficult when we are constantly shunned from both sides. this community hardly feels like a community when you don’t have everything figured out. it’s so depressing.

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Anonymous 7w

I truly don’t understand how you’d want to push a queer Catholic who’s confused, push further into Catholicism and repression, instead of being welcoming and understanding

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Anonymous 7w

I relate it to fatphobia as a fat person. I am a fat person. I have intense fatphobic thoughts about myself and sometimes catch myself having fatphobic thoughts about others. I have been working on it for years and continue to do so. No one is perfect.

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Anonymous 7w

Exactly. Sometimes I hang out with younger people and it dawns on me they’ve never known a time where gay marriage wasn’t a thing. Like I remember being in class being apart of conversations about if gay people should have the same rights

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Anonymous 7w

Cherry on top: pushing that we should have it all figured out as adults, when some stuff we don’t even become aware of until our late teens OR until we become adults. Like, you expect us to know everything, but we haven’t been taught or exposed to everything. NOT EVERYONE FOLLOWS THE SAME PACE!!! Some of us genuinely don’t know what’s going on and never had the guidance we needed to figure things out.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

right like it’s so disgusting!! i thought WE were supposed to be the accepting ones. obviously bro’s dealing with shit in his real life and thought we could help him. instead everyone’s telling him to khs, it’s so sickening.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

There will also be people hating on you for some reason for another, you cannot please everyone. I’ve always been skinny cause of my poor diet and mental health, wishing to gain weight. Even though I hear people praise thin bodies and shame fat people (which gives me the ick), I’ll support you for whatever body makes you feel comfortable. It takes time to lose/gain weight, so don’t force a new diet to meet people’s expectations. It’s best having someone support you to make the journey memorable!

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

These were conversations everyone had in class around 2008? What did people think? I was a tiny kid back then

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 6w

The convos I heard were mostly, “ if we let the gays get married what next?! We start marrying dogs? The world would be chaos!” Or “why can’t people be gay and not get married, why can’t they be satisfied with that”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

Ok, so basically the same line of thinking as any other opposition to expanding rights for a group. “Ah no change! Change scary, change bad”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

2010 was the first crush I had on another girl. I asked my mom if girls could get married. I had no idea what conversations were going on at the time. I wonder what my mom was thinking when I asked her that. I don’t remember her answer, just that she clearly seemed uncomfortable. Now I have some context.

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