LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | i’ve identified as bi for the last 10 years (insane omg) but recently i’ve been questioning if i’m just a lesbian. how do i figure this out? all my friends also think im just a lesbian in denial which doesn’t help as much as you’d think it would

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i’ve identified as bi for the last 10 years (insane omg) but recently i’ve been questioning if i’m just a lesbian. how do i figure this out? all my friends also think im just a lesbian in denial which doesn’t help as much as you’d think it would

Anonymous 2w

i haven’t had sex before, i need to feel a connection with someone and feel comfortable enough with them before i do that so hookups aren’t on the table to figure out my sexuality. i also don’t have much relationship experience at all. had one girlfriend who was ace so we never had sex, and all the guys i’ve talked to ghosted me when i wouldn’t have sex with them by the 3rd date

Anonymous 2w

it’s really hard to reduce this decision down to genitals when transgender people exist. This questions are kind personal, so they are just things to think about + you don’t need to answer here: If you imagine yourself with a man, romantically and/or sexually, what kind of man if he? What would you do with him? Do you actually enjoy the idea?

Anonymous 2w

sorry this is crude, and granted not everyone's brain works like this, but: how do you feel about the genitalia most frequently associated with either gender? i've had 'bi' friends who later figured out they were lesbian and most of them said something like "well of course I don't like dicks but does anyone?"

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Anonymous

#1 2w

i honestly don’t know. i’ve been sent dick pics before without my consent and have been grossed out by them. only physical encounter i’ve had with one was when i was giving a handjob, but i didn’t see it as we were under the covers

Anonymous

OP 2w

so sort of a vague neutrality colored by some negative experiences? pretty fair. and how is it with thinking about women in the same way?

Anonymous

#1 2w

i’ve never had any “similar”-ish experiences with women to be able to judge fairly i feel like. i know that i am definitely attracted to them know cause wow women are gorgeous, but ive never had any sexual encounters

Anonymous

OP 2w

but if you use your imagination, you know – does it seem gross to get down there or appealing? if it seems fun in a way that it doesn't with men, well...

Anonymous

#2 2w

These questions**** I was thinking about these things myself and I have realized that I'm probably bi but with an attraction to a very narrow demographic of men- and I would not want the same things from a relationship with a man as I would with a woman. Like, I find the idea of marrying a man repulsive, but I can see us being sexual partners and friends.

Anonymous

#2 2w

If you really can’t even imagine a type of man you would enjoy being with- you are probably a lesbian.