Anonymous #1 6d

It’s not that, we did, I’m pretty sure it was both of our first times, and he communicated great, I sent him a good night text and he responded, but then the next morning he suddenly had a need to tell me he wasn’t into me because I’m not “fit” enough, mind you, I may weigh over 300 pounds, but I’m also ALMOST 7 FEET TALL, I think it balances out. Anyway, I’m going to go sulk if the woods for the weekend, camping really is the solution to everything

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Anonymous #1 6d

Men fucking suck, and not in a good way

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Anonymous #2 6d

Honestly yes, I get that he’s young, but damn, I poured my heart and soul into that man. And just because of something so changeable as weight he’s going to leave me. Anyway, as I said to #1, I’m going to go be a lonely man in the middle of the woods for the next three days, hope a bear doesn’t eat me.

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Anonymous OP 6d

*young and dumb, like me

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Anonymous OP 6d

I hate that shit, it’s like… bro I’ve been the same weight this whole time, couldn’t you have made that decision about how much I do / don’t appeal to you Before we fucked? 😐

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Anonymous #3 6d

EXACTLY

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Anonymous #4 6d

So… love is a joke and we’re all just the punchline?

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Anonymous OP 6d

Until you find your ‘soul mate’ yes it can certainly seem that way

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Anonymous #4 6d

Yeah, I have no experience in that department personally, but hopefully one day.

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Anonymous #5 6d

did someone here ask about your body type preference?

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Anonymous #3 6d

They’re saying the guy was shallow for not being interested in them for being 300 pounds and not fit, I’m asking if it makes me shallow for possibly having a similar mindset…

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Anonymous #5 6d

having somewhat of a body type preference is normal on its own, but looking at what you said, there’s a lotttt to unpack here re: your ideas about the relationship between size and health. either way, “I need a partner who can stay healthy” is shallow because healthfulness is by definition a temporary state

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Anonymous #3 6d

THAT was the kinda answer I was looking for, I have a correlation between obesity and lack of health because studies show a direct connection to obesity and heart issues 😭

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Anonymous #5 6d

as in, realistically no one can reliably “stay healthy”—that just makes you sound like the type who would abandon a partner when they develop cancer. or when they gain weight from being in treatment for a different chronic illness

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Anonymous #3 6d

The only times I leave are when they can’t respect boundaries, cheat, or lie a lot

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Anonymous #5 6d

?? what kind of answer are you saying you were “looking for”, babe. I’m def not wasting my time trying to debate someone who isn’t even interested in differentiating between correlation and causation

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Anonymous #3 6d

I was looking for a yes or no and a reasoning as to why

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Anonymous #5 6d

well, what you said is that you “need a partner who can stay healthy”, so it sounds like either you articulated your criteria for a partner poorly or you’re dealing with some cognitive dissonance

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Anonymous #3 6d

I think you just misunderstood me cause you seem upset, I don’t associate weight with health until they take up two seats

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Anonymous #3 6d

And I’ve seen someone with blood cancer before, if you look like that without a disease you’re definitely unhealthy, I mean health in a sense of by their own choices, not by genetics or the misfortune of contracting a disease…

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Anonymous #5 6d

and now you say you wanted an explanation, yet you were eager to balk and deflect when I tried to give you one 😭 okay, I’m out

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Anonymous #5 5d

While I agree that healthy is good, something as changeable as weight doesn’t seem like the best reason to me, weight can change, so why not help your partner to be healthier. I’m not saying I blame him, I made this post in a momentary lapse in judgement, but health can change easily at any time. And as someone who has had three people close to me and a dog die of cancer, and one actively dying of it that can also change at any time.

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Anonymous #5 5d

I’m not saying your reasons are wrong, but I do disagree with your methods.

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Anonymous OP 5d

I’m completely fine with dating someone who’s heavier so long as they’re interested and willing to work towards that, I care more about someone’s health in a sense that they’re trying with what they have control over if that makes sense

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Anonymous #5 5d

This is the right mindset, I completely agree with this, I just feel kind of like I was used, While I do understand that someone might take time to think, I don’t agree with fucking someone your not attracted to. I just feel like I was a glorified sex toy that came with a room

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Anonymous OP 5d

Yeah, I didn’t see anything wrong with my mindset so I was confused with the other guy getting so pissed at me. I literally just broke things off with a guy a week ago who dated me for two weeks, isn’t fit, but I really liked him as a person, but we ended up just fucking 12 times in less than two weeks but we had already spoken about waiting and taking things slowly, I’m in shape though and was gonna help him but he overstepped some boundaries

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Anonymous #5 5d

I’m sorry that happened, he sounds like an ass, seeing as this was my first attempted relationship I was just going to see where it went, that was a mistake, I’m definitely going to be setting some boundaries if there’s a next time, although right now I mostly just feel like curling up and crying or getting drunk, which is exactly what I plan on doing this weekend in the middle of the woods.

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Anonymous OP 5d

If you need someone to chat with I’d be down, I’ve been in a few relationships now, so I’ve experience and can give advise, please stay out of the woods, horror 101

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Anonymous #5 5d

It’s a small family farm, one resident, plus I was an Eagle Scout, I appreciate the concern, but growing up the woods has always been a safe space for me, its just going to be a nice distraction. Plus I can’t afford enough alcohol to get drunk anyway.

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Anonymous OP 5d

I first got drunk with my aunt and her friends when I was like 17, one thing she taught me is to only aim for a buzz, and only drink when you’re in a good mood, so still try to drink moderately, and not as much as you can afford

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Anonymous #5 5d

I don’t think that will be an issue, I currently have about a shot and a half, and I A, can’t afford any more vodka, and B, am too chicken to buy some. As I said above I’m a larger human, I’m also tall, so a lot of that is muscle compared to someone shorter at my weight. I’ve been drunk one time in my life and that was after drinking a ton of near straight vodka.

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Anonymous OP 5d

How much is a near straight vodka? I’ve some friends back at home who wanted me to chug some shots down with them and I ended up puking from the taste alone 😭

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Anonymous #5 5d

It was at a frat party, so I’m not sure the exact ratio, but if I remember correctly it was about a 1:1 ratio of vodka to mixer, and I’m pretty sure I had about two medium sized water bottles of that, a cut water, and some seltzers, I personally enjoy the taste of hard liquor, I know that’s not everyone’s thing, but it’s nice to feel the burn and taste the process.

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Anonymous OP 5d

I like the taste of modelo, it’s the only beer I’ve tasted but I liked it, I’ve also had a few vodka sodas before, those were REALLY good, I also love wine

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Anonymous #5 5d

I find that most beer is pretty bad, except for the German or Belgian beer, they know what they’re doing. Funny story, I was invited over to a friend’s dorm to drink a few weeks ago, at first I wasn’t going to go, so he tried to convince me by saying “we have wine, your gay don’t you like wine?” And it wasn’t even bottled wine, it was that cheap box wine that tastes like regret and plastic bag

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Anonymous OP 5d

I’ve yet to drink box wine, I’m curious to try it though lmao

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Anonymous #5 5d

It’s a mistake in a box, it tastes like alcohol water and plastic with a slight grape aftertaste, definitely would not recommend. It’s made to get you drunk for cheap, not to enjoy.

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Anonymous OP 5d

That reminds me of the smell of gasoline for some reason and now I’m only more curious sir

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Anonymous #5 5d

Well, I physically can’t stop you, but I can also describe it as a nice wine that was fed through a Britta and forgotten in a plastic bag for a few months…

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Anonymous OP 5d

Isn’t wine supposed to be better with age???

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Anonymous #5 5d

… that’s not, damn it

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Anonymous OP 5d

Well??? Am I right or am I right???? 😏

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Anonymous #5 5d

I guess, but that wasn’t the point.

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Anonymous OP 5d

I know but still, I’m gonna wanna try it at some point 😂

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Anonymous #5 5d

I wish you luck with that, don’t blame me when your mouth tastes like a plastic bag

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Anonymous OP 5d

But you tempted me 😌

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Anonymous #5 5d

If I told you that jumping off a bridge was a bad idea and that I didn’t recommend it, would you go jump and blame me?

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Anonymous OP 5d

No, I’d bring a wing suit and have fun

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Anonymous #5 5d

Well, that does sound like fun… but are you going to be wearing a wing suit while drinking the cheap abomination known as box wine?

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Anonymous OP 5d

Nah, I’d throw in some ice cubes, everything taste better cold (minus soup)

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Anonymous #5 5d

That’s fair, most things taste better cold WTF IS UP WITH THESE NEW POP UP ADS, EVERY-TIME I’M TYPING I DON’T WANT TO HEAR A OUT TURBOTAX

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Anonymous OP 5d

Is that what they’re about? I keep seeing them and immediately swiping out of them lmao

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Anonymous #5 5d

I think so, I’ve been trying to swipe away, but my mental reaction time is too good from years of lacrosse goalie practice 😞

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Anonymous OP 5d

I’m just really good at flicking my wrist, my siblings and I use to slap the shit out of each other 😅

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Anonymous #5 5d

Really good at flicking your wrist? Are you sure it’s because of your siblings?😏

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Anonymous OP 5d

I also use to smack branches against trees to make spears you nasty 😂

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Anonymous #5 5d

Ok, if you say so… although metal spears work a lot better, I’ve been meaning to handle the one I made, but moving away for college and all that have kind of stopped my blacksmithing endeavors.

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Anonymous OP 5d

Well I was like 7 so blacksmithing wasn’t on my radar lol

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Anonymous #5 5d

Your loss, it’s best to pick up the craft at a young age

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Anonymous OP 5d

You started blacksmithing as a kid?!?!

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Anonymous #5 5d

I got a late start, I think I was around 11-13 not sure exactly though

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Anonymous OP 5d

When I was about 11-13 they offered us wood shop 😅

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Anonymous OP 5d

Umm I opted out of it for the class with the cool little robots we gave small commands to ;-;

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Anonymous OP 5d

That or it got banned because of something with fingers that our teacher told us about the last time he taught it-

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Anonymous #5 5d

Like, someone lost fingers? No offense, but public school kids aren’t the brightest crayon in the tool shed

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Anonymous OP 5d

I think so??? All I know is someone’s hand got caught in a blade 🤷‍♂️

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Anonymous #5 5d

Well I suppose it depends on the type of blade, with something like a table saw or a mider saw that hand is gone, but you have a chance of survival if it’s only a band saw, still wouldn’t recommend, plus nowadays they can re-attach any lost fingers if you get there fast enough

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Anonymous OP 5d

Just don’t forget to put it on ice lol

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Anonymous #5 5d

That’s also important

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Anonymous OP 5d

Welp, it’s been nice talking to you, but my phones struggling on 8% and I’m gonna go to bed

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Anonymous #5 5d

Night, I gotta get to class anyway

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