LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Hi everyone! I wanted some opinions if that’s okay! A new friend of mine is a trans guy and we were talking a lot but i happened to be saying “girlll omg” or “girl that’s insane”. I say the same things to my coworkers (who are all men). I never think

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LGBTQIA+ 13h

Hi everyone! I wanted some opinions if that’s okay! A new friend of mine is a trans guy and we were talking a lot but i happened to be saying “girlll omg” or “girl that’s insane”. I say the same things to my coworkers (who are all men). I never think—

Anonymous 13h

Just ask them about it

Anonymous 13h

anything of it since i say girl so often. i got to thinking after we hung out tho, could that have maybe made them feel dysphoric? i remember recounting a conversation with my bf to them and how i was using “girl” with my bf too but idk. I would hate to make anyone feel bad :((

Anonymous 13h

Girls get called guys everyday… the men can get over it

Anonymous 42m

I mean why change how you talk if you have no bad intentions, wouldn’t it be transphobic to give him a different treatment?

Anonymous

#1 9h

if a trans man gets dysphoric when called a girl then he’s fully in his right to tell you to stop, he doesn’t have to “get over it.” same for trans women, or non-binary people in general.

Anonymous

OP 5h

did they tell you that they felt bad about it? you could also just preemptively apologize and say that you didn’t mean anything by it and realized later that it might’ve made them feel bad