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My friend (who’s aro herself) thinks I’m aro. But my worst fear right now is that I’m not actually aro, theres just something wrong with how I love.

Anonymous 1d

aromantic is a word to describe your experience of romantic attraction, it’s not something you can have or not have or really be or not be it’s something that is either helpful to describe yourself and how you feel and communicate that to others, or it isn’t. it sounds like using the word aro at this point in time does that for you, so you’re aromantic. labels are just language, you’re a full person who’s feelings will always be more complicated than that, so be nice to yourself

Anonymous

#1 1d

this is so real. like personally, I self-describe as grey-ace because it’s the closest thing to an accurate label for my complicated relationship with sexual attraction, and I can elaborate one-on-one re: what that means for me in particular and the convenient part is that identifying with that language doesn’t preclude me from also being bi, it can function as sort of a “modifier” rather than occupying the whole slot of “what’s your orientation”

Anonymous

#1 1d

all that to say, there’s a variety of different experiences of being aro and none of them are inherently “wrong” 🫶 it’s totally chill if the way you experience attraction & love doesn’t fit the standard script IME aro & ace communities are very open-minded about this stuff and I’m really grateful for the dimension of unrestricted self-knowledge that that vocabulary affords me