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LGBTQIA+ 1d
What do butch and femme mean for gay men? Same vibe as the lesbian labels?
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Anonymous 1d

they’re more commonly used among lesbians, but you’re right that they have historically also been used by gay men. butch can be thought of as ‘embodying a queer masculinity’ and femme as ‘embodying a queer femininity.’

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Anonymous 1d

definitely a different vibe then lesbian i think but more in the literal senses (ie think of butch being used as an adjective to describe traditionally masculine men who may or may not even be queer). but i think it still embodies the lesbian aspect of being more than just appearance

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Anonymous 1d

they mean nothing. you cant be a butch or a femme if you are a man

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Idk man I’m just watching older queer documentaries and the gay men use butch and femme labels so I wasn’t sure if people here still do

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

idk why people say this. it’s not historically accurate at all, and that is so easy to find out too. there was a time on tumblr ppl were so insistent abt this point and it felt like i was watching an instance of mass-psychosis

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