LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Trans man of a decade here (23yr old) I feel so unbelievably in between both worlds even now. I feel like I’m missing out on the girlhood people talk about from my past life I NEVER experienced, ex. Learning about makeup, talking about relationships, etc.

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LGBTQIA+ 5w

Trans man of a decade here (23yr old) I feel so unbelievably in between both worlds even now. I feel like I’m missing out on the girlhood people talk about from my past life I NEVER experienced, ex. Learning about makeup, talking about relationships, etc.

Anonymous 5w

I’m 23, out for a decade too, and I know exactly how you feel man. I never even tried to be a woman and just sort of jumped from childhood to my transition which is a blessing in a lot of ways but also hard. The truth is that manhood is different for everyone, and you don’t need to do the stereotypical bro things to be a man. Relax and do the things that make you happy and you’ll find your crowd.

Anonymous 5w

But I still feel like I haven’t had any real experiences w men. My close friends absolutely early days let me hang w them more often than not but now that I’ve settled into who I am and gotten comfortable I feel like I haven’t experienced manhood. And I haven’t even gotten to learn what manhood is supposed to be like. I feel like I’m constantly on the outskirts trying too hard to mesh with people. Am I wrong for feeling like that?

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Anonymous 5w

Dawg you can still do the makeup and gossip thing as a man… find some queer spaces and just be yourself. Or if you wanna do “man” stuff you can grab a friend, light a fire, and drink some beer. Don’t overcomplicate it, just relax and let yourself have fun no matter if fem/masc

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OP 5w

it’s not everyone of course, but I don’t think that’s an uncommon feeling for cis men either. Men just don’t tend to work towards making friendships deeper all that much, in my experience. Friendship can more often be just mutual interest in hanging out and doing something. Which is both frustrating and lonely, but most don’t take steps to get closer to people out of fear.

Anonymous

#2 5w

I understand the feeling of being in limbo, too. I pass well enough that I get dirty looks in trans spaces, but when I hang with cis guys I’m still awkward and short (which plenty of guys are fine with even if it stresses me out!) And shit, if you want to learn about makeup and go queen out with the twinks and queens at your local gay bar, go right ahead. No one’s stopping you! Feel free to dm me if you wanna talk tho, good luck bro