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LGBTQIA+ 1w
tips on coming out of the closet in college while ur parents know and are unsupportive like how do you avoid having to drop out bc they might cut you off
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Anonymous 1w

You don’t. Unsafe environment, you need to prioritize your safety and wellbeing first

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Anonymous 1w

Wait until you are financially independent

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Anonymous 1w

Literally just don’t. Coming out to everyone is a societal pressure that we must get over as a community. Your safety is much more important

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Anonymous 1w

it is suuuper common to be out to some people and not others, especially early on. if you’re medically transitioning it’ll get harder to hide around them the more changes to your body there are but still not even impossible then. it sucks but it’s reality- queer communities are historically so tight because we often *need* to create new families and support systems.

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Anonymous 1w

pls wait until you're able to be independent from them. prioritize saving up money and maybe even join support groups and see if you can get a community and safety net behind you

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Anonymous 1w

thank you so much for the encouragement this is so awesome🙏🙏🙏🙏

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Anonymous 1w

By get over I mean leave behind. I’m someone who doesn’t want to come out to my family because it would probably get me homeless as well. Coming out to parents like that when you’re financially dependent is such a harmful idea that I would never tell someone to do.

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Anonymous 1w

Okay so you’re kind of going off on tangents. My point is literally that coming out shouldn’t be something that people feel like they HAVE to do. Someone does? Great!! They don’t? Literally nothing to feel ashamed of. That’s my entire point so all the extra stuff isn’t relevant I fear

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Anonymous 1w

You’re missing the point I literally don’t care about your ex. THIS PERSON should not feel pressured into coming out when it’s a risk to their safety. That’s all I’m saying and you’re crying about someone completely unrelated.

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Anonymous 1w

You’re the one who made this a think. I said don’t if you can’t. End of story. The rest is imagined and projected cause of whatever personal baggage you carry and it’s wasting my time

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

gang i dont know who was replying to u cuz i think they all got deleted but ur takes are really good im sorry u got lowkey harrassed it looks like 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

Damn they really did😭 but I appreciate it! I was just trying to be reassuring cause I’m in the same situation😭 def sucks not being able to come out safely, but the friends I’ve found who do support me make it easier!! Whatever you choose I really hope it works for you!

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1w

dude thank you!! you mentioned having supportive friends tho so like does it usually work out okay having a few friends who know you're trans? i know i should have a support system but its really hard to break the "im either out to everyone or out to no one" mindset

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

i promise it is perfectly normal to have ppl that know and support you outside of your family/immediate family. keep yourself safe and get that degree you got this 🫶💖

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

ok i meant to reply to someone on here but @ everyone ig

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