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Being queer isn’t just about sex if you think it is you’re homophobic mkay thank you for coming to my ted talk.
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Anonymous 3d

like yes but also a lot of people are anti-sex in a way that is homophobic too. goes both ways unfortunately.

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Anonymous 3d

As someone who flips between craving intimacy, and not wanting it at all…this is kind of a weirdly subjective argument. And completely philosophical in nature. I’m not quite sure how it being homophobic in nature plays in. As an mlm dating a bi man. If that provides context to my background trying to understand this. I’d like more input.

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Anonymous 3d

Technically sexuality is, but romantic orientation and gender identity arent. That being said, those things are rarely divorced from eachother

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Anonymous 3d

cc @dad

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Anonymous 3d

I mean there’s plenty of gay ppl that think that tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

Mm that’s called internalized homophobia and/or insecurity in your sexuality. Just because you’re gay doesn’t give you a pass to think that being queer is just about sex.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Ig interact w/ more ppl w/ internalized homophobia than im aware of

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3d

There’s plenty of gay people who think being queer is only about sex? I’m aware that aromatic (but not asexual) people do exist and are valid, but are there THAT MANY aromantic gay people? I really don’t know that many gay people who don’t fall in love, get in romantic relationships, or feel romantic attraction tbh

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3d

Like thinking that being queer isn’t about gender expression or romantic attraction, it’s only about your sex life. For example (esp with your bf) was there ever a situation where you were told “you’ve never been with a man sexually/romantically, so you’re not really gay/bi.”

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3d

That’s the point of the post. It’s not just about sexuality, it’s also about romantic orientation and gender identity as well. But if you think it’s just sex and exclude the other things, it can be homophobic for a lot of people.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

Ahh ok ok good

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 3d

Like I had someone tell me that because I didn’t date a girl, I’m not bi. Um I’m pretty sure I am because I spent idk how many years in school doing those “am I gay” quizzes and getting upset when it was saying I was straight due to me being a virgin and I had only dated guys, obsessions with female characters, NEEDING to be friends with a girl at school, doing research for terms because “I can’t be bi”, but when I finally accepted myself and came out my sister said “no shit” 💀

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3d

Have you been gay for a day? So many people just want to fuck. Honestly it makes me depressed

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3d

I mean theres a difference between allosexual aromantics tho the former is usually honest with themselves and others about only wanting sex. Maybe because they need to be in order to identify that way

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