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Is it a bad thing that I value marriage and really want to get married? Because idk why marriage feels like an ultimate expression of love to me. Swearing vows to each other and wearing rings. Is it too close to heterosexual status quo to feel that way?
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Anonymous 16h

no oh my god ofc you can get married

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Anonymous 16h

I think you just have anarchist friends and an anxiety disorder (not judging, I’m the anarchist friend lol)

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Anonymous 14h

as someone who hates the idea of marriage, i’m SO happy other queer people don’t. it’s very cute and it shouldn’t be just for straight people. people have been getting married since forever and it’s very important that queer people take advantage of our right to marry considering it’s unfortunately a privilege in our country and era.

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Anonymous 14h

TWINSSSS

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Anonymous 16h

I worry that I’m buying into a heteronormative mindset, where I want to marry a man and have a house and pets, and not be like a lot of other queer men I see who don’t like marriage and enjoy having a lot of sex and being “free” so to speak

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Anonymous 4h

I think it's the opposite. I love gay marriage because we don't need to be different or new, we, or at least I, just want to be part of a community that we have been shunned from for so long and I think it's beautiful that we can now participate in what were previously heteronormative activities

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 16h

Maybe I’ve been spending too much time around people who are very much in the “radical queers reject traditional institutions and don’t do marriage because queerness is different” sort of mindset idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 16h

That sounds right I do have both of those. I am the most anxious person I know

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