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LGBTQIA+ 7w
Is it a bad thing that I value marriage and really want to get married? Because idk why marriage feels like an ultimate expression of love to me. Swearing vows to each other and wearing rings. Is it too close to heterosexual status quo to feel that way?
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Anonymous 7w

no oh my god ofc you can get married

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Anonymous 7w

I think you just have anarchist friends and an anxiety disorder (not judging, I’m the anarchist friend lol)

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Anonymous 7w

as someone who hates the idea of marriage, i’m SO happy other queer people don’t. it’s very cute and it shouldn’t be just for straight people. people have been getting married since forever and it’s very important that queer people take advantage of our right to marry considering it’s unfortunately a privilege in our country and era.

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Anonymous 7w

I think it's the opposite. I love gay marriage because we don't need to be different or new, we, or at least I, just want to be part of a community that we have been shunned from for so long and I think it's beautiful that we can now participate in what were previously heteronormative activities

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Anonymous 7w

TWINSSSS

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Anonymous 7w

I worry that I’m buying into a heteronormative mindset, where I want to marry a man and have a house and pets, and not be like a lot of other queer men I see who don’t like marriage and enjoy having a lot of sex and being “free” so to speak

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Maybe I’ve been spending too much time around people who are very much in the “radical queers reject traditional institutions and don’t do marriage because queerness is different” sort of mindset idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 7w

That sounds right I do have both of those. I am the most anxious person I know

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 6w

Hahaha the anarchist bit is so real. The romantic in me wants a cute ceremony with vows and lots of laughter, but the anarchist in me wants to keep the government out of it and avoid legal marriage because fuck the government.

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