Anonymous #1 3w

She’s not my friend but I did tell her to actually talk to trans people because I can tell she does not and not just believe the first thing google tells her. She’s insistent that if someone doesn’t have both dysphoria and dysmorphia and get it “approved” by a doctor that they’re performative and not actually trans. I told her hating one’s body is not a requirement of being trans and she won’t listen.

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Anonymous #1 3w

It’s like nonbinary/gnc people do not exist to her. Plenty of people who fall under the trans umbrella term just want to identify as how they feel on the inside and not need to go through extensive surgery/change how they dress(yes she thinks clothing choice equals gender apparently) to feel happy. But I’m not trans so what do I know, right? 🤷🏾‍♀️

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Anonymous OP 3w

Yeah I totally feel your annoyance. I agree that it shouldn’t be difficult for someone to realize they can’t define other people but this girl sounds dense. It’s a losing battle fr😞 as long as you’re educated and capable of the level of empathy ur at rn that’s what matters more yk

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Anonymous #1 3w

Yeah I fear it’s a loss cause. Meanwhile she claims to be a trans ally which is what astonishes me the most. I just can’t help people who don’t want to be helped.

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Anonymous #2 3w

gender euphoria is “i feel better when my gender is affirmed x way”, for ex, “i feel euphoria when someone uses she/her pronouns for me.” that can be easier to realize than “i feel bad/nothing when someone uses he/him pronouns for me” (which is dysphoria) bc when that’s the only experience you have, it doesn’t stick out as distressing because *everything* feels bad.

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Anonymous #2 3w

that’s why there has been a shift in the community to emphasizing euphoria over dysphoria, it’s also a way to push back on the medicalization of trans identity.

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Anonymous OP 3w

oh also i want to point out that nonbinary and GNC are also not synonymous, the vast majority of GNC people aren’t trans. also, nonbinary people can and do have dysphoria and medically transition. you probably know that but your comment is ambiguous.

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Anonymous #2 3w

Yes yes ofc I’m aware 👍 I only said it because gender nonconformity is such a broad thing that can’t be boiled down into a couple identities and not all of them identify as trans but it seems like people like her refuse to acknowledge that.

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Anonymous #1 3w

I made an update post but she’s now telling me she IS trans and is doubling down on everything I’ve said and more. Thank fuck she’s in the minority but she believes otherwise. So sad to see.

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Anonymous #3 3w

I hate that for you because only YOU know and can figure out who you are. No one can take that from you. You don’t need to want to crawl out of your own skin like it’s a onesie to be considered as trans. It’s not fair to impose that onto trans people.

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Anonymous #4 3w

also frankly as a guy with dysphoria having people interrogate me about it would make me miserable. like if someone felt like they needed to know exactly how much i hate my body before deciding if they could extend to me the bare minimum of respect i would do everything in my power to never interact with them again

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