Anonymous #3 8w

also, is that not just like, tinder?😭😭

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Anonymous #4 8w

Ok so no Grindr you see like 20ish profiles and you can message all of them there is no swiping and they can all message you

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Anonymous #2 8w

ohh ok makes more sense

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Anonymous #4 8w

And they are in order of closest to furthest and then you have filters like age and stuff like that but for them most part you get a lot of old guys on Grindr

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Anonymous #5 8w

It’s sadly the best Queer app for many, many areas. We don’t really have many other options.

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Anonymous #6 8w

I immediately block anyone who is “DL”… too much risk and danger in those situations…

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Anonymous #8 8w

This feels kind of slut shamey

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Anonymous #3 8w

Because it is

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Anonymous #2 8w

It’s not about the hooking up, it’s about the kinds of interactions you have. Women don’t really put up with creepy behavior the way men do. Part of that is because the risk profile is very different for women than it is for men, but it’s also because women respect themselves enough to leave an environment that makes them feel objectified and uncomfortable

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Anonymous #8 8w

Then why are people saying there needs to be a lesbian Grindr? You do you but you should also recognize that other people exist that feel differently than you so many that they want an app to meet like minded individuals.

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Anonymous #2 8w

Because you think it’ll be something that it just won’t be. If you really want it, that’s great, go build it. But there’s a reason it’s never been successfully done

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Anonymous #2 8w

I think what op is saying is that it’s not as much of a problem as men going on apps that are meant for women. There’s a respect that should go both ways, but it’s more understood by one group more than the other

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Anonymous #6 8w

🎯

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Anonymous #15 8w

Is tinder not straight grindr? (Asking as someone who has never used it before)

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Anonymous #15 8w

Tinder is basically cishet Grindr, haha. If you’re Queer on there, good luck.

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Anonymous #15 8w

Tinder is more of a long term environment and Grindr is usually more hookup culture but not limited to that.

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Anonymous #5 8w

Eh, most of the people I see on Tinder are only in for short term or fun, but that may differ a lot by age and region.

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Anonymous #7 8w

I was gonna say I’ve only ever heard of tinder being for hookups but grindr can be a barber pharmacy hookup or uber if u use it right and I think that’s more what ppl are looking for

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Anonymous #16 8w

Oh, if only!! 😩😩

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Anonymous #8 8w

You clearly haven’t met a lot of women if you think they won’t let themselves be objectified or made uncomfortable

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Anonymous #7 8w

yea dl men are usually the spreaders

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Anonymous #15 8w

Grindr certainly has quite a breadth of use, it’s lowkey fascinating at times.

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Anonymous #7 8w

LIKEEEE the girls deserve Grindr

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Anonymous #7 8w

I like getting my fix, without the commitment at times. Everybody deserves that free will 🫢💀

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Anonymous #16 8w

Unfortunately it would be infiltrated by people who think they can “fix” asexuals 😔✌️

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Anonymous #19 8w

It’s more than that!

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Anonymous #13 8w

Sadly. 😔

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Anonymous #16 8w

There’s an app called acespace! I haven’t tried it out yet because I’m in an “it’s complicated” stage but it looks good!

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Anonymous #20 8w

Checking it out now, thanks!

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Anonymous #21 8w

They may have been trans women. And of course in this theoretical, they would be welcome to this app, but 1) not all trans women are lesbians and 2), if it isn’t super clear, lesbians don’t like men. Grindr is not a feasible place for wlw people to go as that is not the intention of that app and not who it is geared towards.

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Anonymous #15 8w

There were some trans women yes but there were also some cis women, listen as such in their profile anyway. And I don’t mean as a place to find other women, according to their profiles they were using it to find men, that’s my point. Tho I do still agree with the original point of the post that men especially wouldn’t stay off an app for lesbians, to a more excessive degree

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Anonymous #21 8w

Grindr is sadly the best app in my area to meet other Queer people and bi/pan guys to try and date. It’s rough as a (Trans) woman on there, though. 🫠

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Anonymous #7 8w

I’m sure :( t guy from tx here, sending hugs queen xx

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Anonymous #6 8w

If they’re straight men then they wouldn’t have sex with men…? That sounds like gay sex? Which is what grindr is for? What’s the problem here

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Anonymous #22 8w

they won’t accept that they aren’t straight

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Anonymous #22 8w

thats why they put "straight" in air quotes, they mean guys who claim to be straight but arent. the problem is theyre cowards and liars lol

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Anonymous desperatetransgirl 8w

Unfortunately that’s the same as on Grindr lmao

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Anonymous #24 8w

“Hey do you-“ *grinds fists together* “or-“ *scissors with fingers*

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Anonymous #20 8w

Then that leads to a 3rd app called rock paper scissors where it’s just a queer only app rocks are gays and mlm paper is bi or pan and scissors are lesbians or wlw

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Anonymous #24 8w

I love all of this in this thread so much, ive found my ppl

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Anonymous #2 8w

This implies that the gays are fighting the lesbians for the bi/pan ppl, the lesbians want the the bi ppl, and the bi ppl don’t want the gays despite the gays fighting the lesbians for said bi ppl 😭😭😭 that was confusing to write

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Anonymous #20 8w

YES LINK THE LESBIANS

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Anonymous #25 8w

Yessss I’ve had this happen and so many friends too. I feel like an app for finding a unicorn is its own issue but they shouldn’t be going into sapphic spaces with a boyfriend

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Anonymous #31 8w

Sadly there’s a lot of transphobia in those spheres 😔

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Anonymous #6 8w

🎯

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Anonymous #19 8w

Grindr is a many things app normally hookups but sometimes you find love or life long friendships and sometimes you just chat with a fellow gay and make small talk. But most of the time you talk to people who want you inside of them or to be inside of you

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Anonymous #29 8w

I’ve used Grindr for years and never hooked up I mainly use it to talk to my local community of gays and tell people they have cute hair or good outfits. Grindr is what you make of it and Madonna made it a concert venue

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Anonymous #34 8w

i mean some lesbians like trans women but yea

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Anonymous #32 8w

Most lesbians I’ve ever met are very inclusive and supportive. Only the misogynistic ones aren’t.

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Anonymous #34 8w

you’re right abt not wanting to be a third but it’s weird to tell someone what they are and aren’t allowed to like. lesbians can like trans women or intersex women with male genitalia. that said, and this isn’t anywhere near the same issue but to make it clear, lesbians can like trans men or strap too. you are not the pussy police, stop acting like it 💋

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Anonymous #2 8w

Ngl I lowkey thought it was a porn sight. I'm almost 100% certain it's because of the name 🤦

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Anonymous #19 8w

It’s basically a hookup app but I’ve never used it to hookup

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Anonymous #12 8w

Or couples looking for a third

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Anonymous #35 8w

That really pisses me off

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Anonymous #15 8w

No, lesbians CANT like dick. Let me make that very clear. Stop disrespecting an entire identity and check yourself. You don’t get to tell lesbians what they like. It has always been know lesbians don’t like dick. If they do, they’re not a lesbian. Get tf over it. Lesbophobic asshole. Respect our spaces or you’re not welcome. This is pride month, too. Respect lesbians. They don’t like dick. End of story.

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Anonymous #15 8w

A strap on is not a dick. Like we tell straight men constantly. Ignorant fuck

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Anonymous #32 8w

If they have a dick, thats a bi women. But yea.

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Anonymous #34 8w

the definition of a lesbian is literally a woman who likes women. trans women are women. stop policing OTHER people’s identities. you can be a lesbian who doesn’t like dick, and that’s perfectly fine. it’s not transphobic to have a genital preference. but it IS transphobic to tell lesbians that they are not lesbians simply because they would date a trans woman. “you don’t get to tell lesbians what they like” and that’s exactly what the fuck you are doing.

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Anonymous #5 8w

genuinely not here to play Gendered Power Imbalance Denier, but I do feel like this is evidence that the “women respect men, they wouldn’t take up space on an app for men the way that men would on an app for women” claim isn’t totally accurate

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Anonymous #36 8w

except grindr isn’t an app made only for men. it’s an app for queer people. it’s true that there’s mostly gay men on it but that’s not only who it was made for. not the same thing as men intruding on an app explicitly made for lesbian women

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Anonymous #32 8w

the wikipedia page begs to differ

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Anonymous #32 8w

also confirmed by a TechCrunch article from the day the app originally dropped

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Anonymous #36 8w

Grindr’s own app description begs to differ.

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Anonymous #7 8w

yeah, the present-day description. obviously they updated the whole gimmick to be more broadly-inclusive after over a decade of userbase expansion? that’s why I was sourcing quotes from the time of its creation please note that I am specifically replying to a comment which reads “grindr isn’t an app made only for men”. it was in fact originally Made For Gay Men

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Anonymous #7 8w

I’m not saying it’s a bad thing that they’re LGBTQ-oriented in a more general sense at this point, tbc. but they really could not have been much more explicit about the fact that it was intended as a cruising app for gay men. let’s not get ahistorical with it just for the sake of internet argument points

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Anonymous #6 7w

holy fuck it’s so bad for this in Detroit

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Anonymous #3 7w

that being said, if you’re ever in the uk, go dogging

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Anonymous #12 7w

No not just occasionally I went on it and I’m from a very queer populated area (like literally one of the highest concentrations of queer women specifically) and within the first 10 minutes I saw 7+ cishet men and 3 straight couples

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Anonymous #39 7w

“dudes wanting pussy” def does not necessarily mean “straight” though, because bisexual men exist and so do non- or pre-op trans men

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Anonymous #34 7w

They aren’t going to pick you. Tokens get spent. As a cis woman and lesbian, I’ve been with a couple trans women and have had lovely experiences… am I not lesbian now just because you say so??? Enjoy dating TERFs I guess 😐

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Anonymous #34 7w

Cool, lesbians can like anyone who isn’t a cis man and still be lesbian. You don’t police other people, you only have say over yourself. Enjoy being wrong and shitty!

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Anonymous #7 7w

No. Lesbians are biological females who are attractive EXCLUSIVELY to biological females. End of story. Stop centering cis men into everything. Thats not us. You are lesbophobic and gross.

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Anonymous #34 7w

Keep playing pretend all you’d like. You’re the only lesbophobic and transphobic arse here.

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Anonymous #34 7w

trans women aren’t cis men. the only lesbophobic person here is actually you. you are telling millions of lesbians that they are not lesbians because they would date a trans woman or nonbinary person. what even is a “biological female”? someone with a vagina? are genitals the only thing that matters for a lesbian to be attracted to someone? this has to be the goofiest take i’ve ever seen

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Anonymous #34 7w

You are literally just inventing definitions lmao. Just say that you don’t like trans people because ur a bigot and move the fuck on

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Anonymous #34 7w

Lmao that’s never been how it worked baby. You’re embarrassing yourself

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