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What’s the label for when every time you experience romantic attraction your immediate thought is “I shouldn’t be feeling like this”?
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Anonymous 16h

is it a guilt thing?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

No, idk how to explain it but what I mean by “I shouldn’t be feeling this” is more so “This feeling is unnatural for me” if that makes sense? Like bc of how rare it’s been

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

hmmm tbh I kind of relate bc I never get crushes or fall for people that often…I’ve thought about demi/gray romantic labels for myself, if that helps.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

I’ve identified as demiromantic but I feel like along with that there is probably some part of me that feels weird about only having attraction in that rare specific case so I didn’t know if there was some word for that haha

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

maybe it’s that sometimes it can be hard to distinguish between ‘I feel this way because it’s a part of my identity’ and ‘I feel this way as a consequence of my identity’. Like I often feel frustrated about not having crushes on people bc I do WANT to have that experience, but it just so rarely happens for me. And when it DOES happen it can be kind of overwhelming.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15h

I never thought of that haha, that makes sense!

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