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LGBTQIA+ 6w
After dating a guy I meshed with for 6 months, I still think I’m a lesbian and it makes me suicidal. He’s patient, straightforward, honest, and loving. But I don’t want him physically. We haven’t kissed. The thought is repulsive. I want to die.
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Anonymous 6w

please if you dont go already, go to therapy

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Anonymous 6w

I want children. I want my family’s approval. I don’t want to have to lie and hide who am. Why.

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Anonymous 6w

poor guy

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Being able to love a guy would’ve been the best outcome but I can’t even fucking have that. He’s incredible, my family likes him, and he seems objectively perfect for me to start a family with. But I can’t fucking do it.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

Hey I went through this if you need someone to talk to

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

I don’t even know where to begin but. What are you supposed to do. In literally every single regard besides romantic/sexual love, it seems perfect to stay with him. But I don’t want to lie to him and lead him on.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

I get it. It’s really isolating. I was also raised Catholic and went to 12 years of Catholic school. I broke down when I had the man that who was everything that I said I needed in order to be attracted to a man. And he still wasn’t enough and I have spent years in therapy learning to love and accept myself

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

Hhh I’ve always found therapy really dull and like a waste of my time. I’ve gone like 4 different times throughout my life. Though only recently when I went to a psychiatrist and got mood stabilizers and ADHD meds have I had this much clarity on my emotions and life and it really sucks to suddenly feel so strongly about this. I thought I was lesbian in middle/highschool, accepted maybe I was bi within the past 6 months, and now I’m here. Back to square one but in this situation.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

I just found therapy to be one of the best places to voice all my thoughts and feelings. Therapy was one of the main ways I learned to love and accept myself and not feel shame towards my sexuality

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