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LGBTQIA+ 1d
Hot take… Straight women have ruined gay bars. Like why is the GAY bar im going to 2/3 women? Why am i getting yelled at for “cutting the line” to use the open urial? Like i love girls but i want to grind on guys, not girls
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Anonymous 1d

I’m a lesbian and it’s annoying for us too. Like why are you calling me gross for slightly flirting with you at the gay bar??? I have said things like omg you look beautiful and have been called a d¥ke in response. They think they own the place and it’s ridiculous

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Anonymous 1d

Worst thing to me is them bringing their boyfriends. Nobody in the gay bar is comfortable with a bunch of straight men there

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Anonymous 1d

If your city is big enough theres bars and clubs that don’t allow women and vice versa. Sounds like you’re in a gay club thats either popular w straight women or more likely, lesbians.

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Anonymous 1d

How do you know they’re straight?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Idk i have a pretty good gaydar and legit i was dancing on the floor with my gay friends and we were COMPLETELY surrounded by girls. Like its a GAY BAR i love girls but come one. I get that its nice to not be groped or hit on but i go to a gay bar to meet and dance with other guys. Not more girls than guys

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I don’t think it being lesbians is more likely. At least where I’m from, gay bars are full of literal straight women. Some of them even with their boyfriends

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

And I definitely saw some of this

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 1d

I’d never call someone gross but do you understand how it would be frustrating going to a club that is oriented for gay men and being legit surrounded by girls. And I feel like anyone who says anything like that to someone is an asshole, especially over a compliment.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

I was using you in the general sense. There are 33 lesbian bars in the entire country, gay bars are some of the only places where lesbians can find community. I have never lived anywhere that has a lesbian bar so if I want to go out to a bar my options are a straight bar or a gay bar and straight bars aren’t safe for me to go to with my trans friends.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 23h

That makes sense, but I have a pretty good date and I am fairly certain the majority of these girls were not lesbians. They also weren’t dancing on the dance floor which just sucked. And I think they go to the gay bars for the same reason you do. They want to feel safe and they know that nobody is going to hit on them

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

they're talking about all the straight women at gay bars being homophobic when presented with gay women

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 23h

I believe that they weren’t lesbians or even queer. I go to the gay bars to meet other women as well as be safe from straight men. When there are so many straight women it makes it harder as a lesbian to even have casual conversations with these women bc they see it as an attack and like we are ruining their safe space

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