LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | sometimes im sad that its harder for me (afab enby (big boob)) to signal androgyny than amab ppl generally. but the flipside is im less likely to get slurred for wearing mens clothes than someone with a beard wearing a skirt or makeup and that shit sucks

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LGBTQIA+ 22w

sometimes im sad that its harder for me (afab enby (big boob)) to signal androgyny than amab ppl generally. but the flipside is im less likely to get slurred for wearing mens clothes than someone with a beard wearing a skirt or makeup and that shit sucks

Anonymous 22w

like ppl who are amab seem boxed in so much more in terms of clothing and general self-expression than afab ppl (in the white liberal middle class background i come from) but i'd love to hear other ppls experience/takes on it cause obviously afab ppl are pushed into boxes as well but the punishment for not fitting gender roles seems less violent and more dismissive. like trans women are a threat but trans men are just confused lil girls making a big deal out of nothing

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Anonymous 22w

exactly!! i think trans people in general force a reckoning with how much gender/expression is an active choice (and how attraction isn't necessarily controllable) which is uncomfortable and scary to a lot of people because they've defined themselves around behaviors and desires they want to believe is baked in but it isn't in the way they think it is- people are incredibly invested in the rigidity of the gender binary and sexuality bc they've made sacrifices their whole lives to fit inside it