Sidechat icon
Join communities on Sidechat Download

default user profile icon
Anonymous 1d

The distinction I commonly hear locally to me: - Bisexual = two or more, but not necessarily all or equally - Pansexual = all genders, equally - Omnisexual = all genders, but not equally - Polysexual = kind of outdated but makes the distinction of more than two, less than all But honestly you can identify however the hell you want to describe yourself. Just because myself and the other nerds come up with descriptions/distinctions doesn’t mean we’re gonna prescribe labels unprompted or be jerks

upvote 60 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 20h

as a pan person, the most common definition i’ve seen the pan community use is attraction to people regardless of gender. it’s not that the level of attraction to every gender is the exact same, it’s more that idgaf about a potential romantic/sexual partner’s gender and that does not affect my likelihood of being attracted to someone.

upvote 32 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 17h

If they bite you, they’re bisexual. If you bite them, they’re pansexual. Bisexual is the name of the doctor. Pansexual is the name of the creation. So on and so forth.

upvote 26 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 20h

This is me, I just figured out the difference after being out as bi for 6 years 😭 apparently when you’re pan you feel the same for all genders. I thought maybe I was pan but I do feel different attraction for men vs women and masculinity vs femininity

upvote 14 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 11h

pansexuals blossom again after a year whereas bisexuals need to be replanted

upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous 15h

ok guys here’s my 2¢: people trying to come up with an inherent difference are shooting themselves in the foot bc they’re straight up just asking the wrong question. We have two words, not bc we have two different species, but because the words were coined in different spaces at different times in different socio-cultural-political contexts. It is impossible to come up with an identity answer for a historical question. But people don’t realize it IS a historical question, so there’s no winning.

upvote 5 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

And tbh you can pick your identity based on which flag you like best bc as an omni person good god is our flag an eyesore

upvote 56 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 23h

I go with bi because people understand it without explanation

upvote 57 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #2 20h

Another perfectly reasonable option

upvote 18 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #5 19h

Gender expression doesn’t inherently make you not pan based off of nerd definitions, but like I keep saying in the thread, all of it is made up and you can do whatever you want

upvote 13 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 18h

Yeah exactly. I like the labels sometimes just to say I’m something but in the end I don’t care what someone is and will still date whoever I am compatible with and like

upvote 13 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #1 17h

im not omni but i think the omni flag is pretty ;-;

upvote 9 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 15h

You win by accepting that it doesn’t matter. I am bi/pan, but more importantly, I’m a slut so if you’re down I’m down you should come over please please please

upvote 8 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> #7 12h

The colors are pretty in isolation but it does not work as a flag

upvote 6 downvote
default user profile icon
Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

I like to observe definitional distinctions because that’s how my brain works. I largely use it to identify my own sexual preferences, help others who ask to identify theirs, and communicate it to other people who like to observe those differences. It’s not for everyone, telling people they’re labeling themselves “wrong” is loser behavior, and if having those definitions doesn’t spark joy, ignore them

upvote 6 downvote