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Having spent most of my life in a country where homosexuality is illegal I sometimes find it really funny how a lot of you want to have discourse over the most inconsequential things and constantly play the victimhood olympics
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Anonymous 18h

Genuinely. I recognize that people have the right to complain and make commentary about the things that affect them. However, I was raised in Russia and have only lived in the US for 2 years now. I am so grateful that I don’t have to hide everything about myself here. I do understand that the US is still not the safest place for queer people and we do deserve better but some people have it way worse.

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Anonymous 17h

I truly cannot stand the petty grievances I see, especially on twitter, where everyone should have a substack instead (ironically me rn). Like full honesty, I am very fortunate to have been able to grow up with an accepting family in a relatively accepting area. Like yes, I did experience having to hide my sexuality in like middle and high school; yes, I have depression that I deal with but, instead of ruminating over it on twitter, I’m doing the work to cope with it healthily

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Anonymous 17h

Yeah… it’s unfortunate :( but it really is mostly internet spaces in my experience- in person communities don’t gaf about most of the “discourse”

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Anonymous 14h

What examples would you give for that? And where are you from?

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Anonymous 8h

A lot of us from here look around and think the same thing too. Like,,, why must we waste time and energy on so many of these things. People need to realize they should just do whatever the fuck they want. People will think what they think and that is not something we can control so just do what you want anyways. What matters is that we stick together

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 17h

But there are seriously some ppl out there that need to actually do something about their conditions instead of spending time and energy in the comments

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Anonymous replying to -> .gaia. 8h

To me it’s a preoccupation with wanting to control how we are perceived but that is simply something that will never be in our control. Chin up

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 Just now

In which state? There are 50 of them and they are all a bit different. Some are legitimately horrible for queer while others are marginally better. Marginally better doesn't mean great. Many parts of the Deep South are not going to be super far off from somewhere like Russia in terms of queer acceptance and safety.

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