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LGBTQIA+ 3w
I on and off identify as a lesbian/queer, but will occasionally have crushes on men. but today i got the sense that a guy might reciprocate and now i feel uncomfortable 😭 don’t know how to tell if its because I don’t ACTUALLY like him or im jus nervous
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Anonymous 3w

i don’t think you should ignore the discomfort, if anything this is reason to wait and think on ur feelings more. i accidentally led a guy on because i dismissed discomfort as just nerves about it being my first romantic situation and super regretted it. it ended up fine and i figured it out but he made for a really lame first kiss just bc i wasn’t into him lmao

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Anonymous 3w

like how it feels right now it that i wanted him to like me, but now that it might be reciprocated im realizing how embarrassing it would feel to date a man openly. and how i would always feel regret if i was with a man long term and not a woman. i don’t know if i could be serious about it. i wish i could experiment but i would hate for some of my firsts to be taken if i dont actually like someone. which is why i wish i could find a gf. but it’s so HARD to meet wlw people and i feel hopeless

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

this is just me ranting bc idk who to talk to

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Anonymous 3w

yeah i’ve just never kissed anyone and i don’t want my first kiss to be a man 😭 which maybe says something

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

although i think our situations are a little different bc he was into me rather than the other way around

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

yeah see this is my fear… maybe i should just get to know the guy better

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

If you feel this against the decision don’t do it. From everything you are saying it comes across to me as more you are sure of your attraction to women and your attraction to men could just be societal pressure bc he’s a good guy and you feel guilty bc you should like him

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

i mean i do have a bit of a crush on him im just not sure if it goes beyond that

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