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How do I put into words that the gender spectrum makes me uncomfortabl and I wish I didn’t have to fit into it and know I don’t have to but they/them doesn’t feel right bc I do sometimes like she and feeling fem like I wish I could just have zero pronouns
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Anonymous 1w

i’ve been outwardly trans/genderqueer for like 6 years and i go through phases where i hate all pronouns. mostly i just hate what is attached to pronouns; i would use she/her if it didn’t mean people/society saw me as a woman. dysphoria comes and goes in waves for me. ever since i started identifying as a butch for my *gender* (not just another identity) it’s helped a lot. don’t be afraid to get weird with it

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Anonymous 1w

Like is there a word for that idk I just feel uncomfortable being boxed in ig

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

always remember op, gender is a scam. if you don’t want to fit into any labels or categories you dont need to. personally i just say i’m genderqueer and move on. but if labels help you, absolutely go for it. obviously, i don’t know your feelings or experiences, but just by the description have you looked into the term “agender?” or possibly if your experience is gender-fluid leaning, there are also umbrella terms for that. “genderfae” for fluctuating femme and “genderfawn” for fluctuating masc.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

omg I didn't know there were specific labels under genderfluid. thank you so much, you just fixed my whole gender identity crisis

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

I wonder if I might be a demigirl- part of me wishes I could label as a way to understand myself better but at the same time I still don’t want to feel in box

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Idk I’ve been feeling this way most my life I went through “fazes” before and just have ignored it but my partner has definitely made me feel more comfortable in my own skin and taking a more masculine role (not purely masculine just rather less feminine) made me realize oh shit is this what euphoria feels like

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