LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | my friend hasn't paid their rent in 3 months. they are threatening to sue their apartment complex for transphobia, since they r abt to get evicted. how can i tell them, the apartment complex isn't transphobic, they just need to pay their rent...

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my friend hasn't paid their rent in 3 months. they are threatening to sue their apartment complex for transphobia, since they r abt to get evicted. how can i tell them, the apartment complex isn't transphobic, they just need to pay their rent...

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Anonymous 1d

bc everytime i bring it up, they claim that im "taking their side" and "money is tight" and i understand that but also like you signed a lease.

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Anonymous 1d

All you can do is hope they learn when they hit rock bottom, unless they have some documentation of discrimination other than word of mouth they unfortunately have no case. Transitioning is stupid pricy and I can understand wanting to be comfortable in your own skin but unless they have a plan for the possibility of being evicted other than suing they just gonna have to live,laugh,love, and learn

Anonymous 1d

nothing you can do atp besides watch the downfall. can’t help someone who doesn’t want help. if they sue, there’s no evidence that would go in their favor

Anonymous 1d

i understand wanting to transition asap so you feel comfortable in your own body but if it’s between that & having a roof over your head …

Anonymous 1d

This is the type of transperson the CIA makes in a lab to make other queer folk look bad

Anonymous 1d

yeah these kinds of people really frustrate me because its not transphobia on their part, it’s called “you need to be an adult and pay the rent and we’re calling you out for it” but when they claim transphobia over something that is not transphobia, i feel like it makes actual transphobia/homophobia seem easier to brush off. kinda a boy who cried wolf situation

Anonymous 1d

i fear housing should take priority.. that’s like choosing between food and concert tickets. although one would definitely bring pleasure and happiness, the other is kind of essential

Anonymous 1d

say “you’re stupid asfk, they’re not being transphobic, you signed a legal document and you’re not holding up your end of said document, which means you no longer get to live there. pay your rent.”

Anonymous 1d

yeah I don't think there's anything you can do in this situation, just try not to get too entangled in it. like I lost a friend by refusing to take in their kittens because they decided they didn't want to pay the pet fee at their apartment and threw a massive fit when the cats were discovered anyways. I also found out afterwards their roommate was severely allergic to cats...

Anonymous 1d

This is ridiculous I’m sorry but no way would I condone that. I’d tell my friend straight up that they’re acting out. CAUSE HUH???

Anonymous 1d

what's #1 saying, i have them blocked lol

Anonymous

#1 1d

they said the evidence is they aren't able to have enough for rent bc they are having to spend money on medical bills.

Anonymous

OP 1d

hormones, and top surgery consultations

Anonymous

OP 1d

that’s not indicative of discrimination on the basis of gender identity lmao, they are just bad with money and landed themselves in that situation. they’re lucky they got three months of rent free living. most places give you one and then you’re done

Anonymous

#1 1d

i think it's bc its college housing so maybe it's different idk? Yes i agree tho its not discriminating

Anonymous

OP 1d

they should’ve applied for accommodations then. colleges have resources for things like that, but it is up to the individual to reach out for those services and before they’re at risk of eviction

Anonymous

#5 1d

maybe concert tickets is the wrong metaphor, perhaps more like a tattoo, but still

Anonymous

#2 1d

Anonymous

#2 1d

just sayin facts

Anonymous

#8 1d

oh fire, yeah idk why i have them blocked

Anonymous

#9 1d

yeah 100%. it’s people like that who make the rest of the world think lgbtq people think like this. when in reality it’s just an idiot who is also trans and blaming their idiocy on transphobia

Anonymous

#7 1d

^^^^

Anonymous

#5 1d

for many people transition is needed for survival and is incredibly effective healthcare treatment. i agree with your sentiment that housing should be equally prioritized, if not be a higher priority. but i think that is a very limited mindset and poor phrasing

Anonymous

#4 1d

This because once you lose housing the gap between you and transitioning becomes a gaping chasm

Anonymous

#10 1d

Semantics really don’t matter, you understood what they were saying

Anonymous

#10 1d

did i not.. explain that my metaphor wasn’t very good?