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LGBTQIA+ 8w
referred to myself w the correct pronouns without thinking for the first time !!!
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Anonymous 8w

congrats, it definitely took a bit for me to find the right ones and even longer to think of myself exclusively with they/them. big step

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Anonymous 8w

I changed my name legally last year and it took a few months but now that no one calls me my dead name ive finally started thinking about myself using my name

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Anonymous 8w

People don’t talk enough about this stage! It’s a change, even for the trans person.

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Anonymous 8w

Doesnt this mean u dont have dysphoria? Whats the point of being trans if u it doesnt feel natural?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

Uhh I definitely do but also I’m coming to terms w being nonbinary

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

because if you’ve been referring to yourself when talking to people by a set of pronouns for like two decades or more for your life, even if you identify with a different gender, those initial pronouns can be hard to shake

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

How did you type this whole comment out, look at it, and still hit send?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8w

I dont read them over but i think if ur actually trans using the right pronouns would feel natural idk just sounds like ur not trans

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

It’s more that your whole life you’re conditioned to refer to yourself and respond to the name your parents gave you and the pronouns of your birth sex. Even if your deadname and AGAB pronouns feel wrong/unnatural, it still takes time to fully separate yourself from them. If someone was in denial or had to delay transitioning there’s also the additional mental block of forcing yourself to respond to a name/pronouns that you know are wrong for safety or out of fear, which takes time to unlearn

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8w

you have to break in the shoe before it fits perfectly

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 8w

That’s such a good metaphor. I’m totally stealing this

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