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LGBTQIA+ 15w
Yearning for a relationship but also possibly being AroAce is absolute hell Like, I’m always in a constant crisis over this and I may actually crash tf out
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Anonymous 15w

Same. I’ve resorted to maladaptive daydreaming about being a completely different person

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Anonymous 15w

I'm in a relationship and I'm aroace! it takes a lot of understanding and considerate partner but we're super happy together, even if my love is different to his

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Anonymous 15w

Wut… how can you yearn for a relationship if you are both aro and ace

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Anonymous 15w

So so true, I’m feeling the same way. It’s so hard because I don’t know how I feel at all. This is why I’m so obsessed with the sims, I just live vicariously through them.

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Anonymous 15w

what is thay

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Anonymous 15w

So then you’re not?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 15w

No that’s actually so real though cuz same, except most times I think about my OCs

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

you can still yearn for the particular closeness of a romantic/sexual relationship (or even just closeness in general) even if you’re not able to feel the necessary attraction

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 15w

Wouldn’t that be yearning for a really close/deep friendship though? (Genuine curiosity)

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

sometimes (really often for a lot of us) yes, but other times we wish we could feel romantic/sexual attraction because it feels like we’re missing something. there’s also some aroaces who have some attraction but not enough to warrant a relationship, so they yearn through that

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 15w

Ok that helps me understand. But How can aroace people who have some attraction know that it is not enough for a relationship if they yearns for one?

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 15w

how do you know you’re attracted to anyone? same way. mostly by thinking about it a lot, probably. also, attraction is complicated (there’s different types, it can wax and wane, etc) and it’s not always the case where someone to have absolutely no attraction. but if you’re only attracted to people about a day every year, that’s effectively aroace

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 15w

not everyone whos aroace has absolutely zero attraction*

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 15w

is sexuality a choice?

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