Anonymous #1 4d

Like she was always sending me photos of people at pride parades and said that the queer community is like that 24/7 with shoving their identity in everyone’s face no matter what it is (trans is different with wanting their chosen pronouns/name said because gender dysphoria can lead to serious mental health issues if not treated). But this group can just be “too woke” or argumentative that it’s becoming toxic. (1)

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Anonymous OP 4d

(2) even the unity group at my school is the same way. I made a joke once and everyone laughed except for one person who lectured me and said I was “supporting the mindset of homophobes who say that sexuality is a choice.” Like dude, my friends who are lesbians/gay laughed at the joke because they understood it was a joke and not offensive at all 🥀

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Like I understand identity/sexuality can be a sensitive topic for some people, but don’t make it an issue if it doesn’t have to be or if I don’t concert your identity. I don’t know how trans people feel inside because I’m not trans, so I’m not gonna sit there and say “you’re transphobic for this” if no one who is trans is offended by it/understands the point, or vise versa (like the joke I made I got lectured by someone who was nonbinary straight (if that’s the term for it??))

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I have a friend who’s trans and I once said a joke to them and apologized right after in case it was offensive because I didn’t know if it was (they dated a guy and then identified as lesbian then came out as nonbinary, then came out as trans so my joke was “this man traumatized you so much you changed your entire identity”). They actually said it was funny because even though it was a personal journey, they didn’t realize that was the timeline of things and that’s how it looked 😭

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Anonymous OP 4d

Like I just know for a fact if I said that in front of the wrong people, they’d get all offended and say “people don’t choose to become gay/trans.” Like I know that part of their journey was not wanting to kiss him and jealous of his outfits, their ex just sucked so much that them coming out shortly after the break up was just funny timing in a way because EVERYONE who dated this man had some type of drama with the relationship.

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