Anonymous #3 1d

So, many cishet men may explore a sexual or short term romantic connection with a trans woman, but long term relationships are out of their norm. The social expectation would be broken if they did. Toxic masculinity tells them that having sex with a person who has a penis is gay, which is taboo in their world. Thus enters trans woman fetish, which is heightened due to it usually kept a secret to maintain their status among other cishet men. (2/?)

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Anonymous #3 1d

Porn is also not helpful in this world since it allows cishet men to explore their attraction to trans women without any expectations or publicly exposing their feelings. So, when real life connections do occur they’ll want to keep that experience of short term secret relationships, which becomes a fetish. The worst part is that we’ll probably not see this cycle being broken anytime soon bc we live in a patriarchal society that puts straight white men with large families at the top. (3/3)

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Anonymous #4 1d

Yeah we can talk about the cycle over and over but if queer ppl keep having a conversation ab cishet men, we'll never reach our actual audience. There's nothing queer people and trans women can really do since it's a cishet mens issue. On top of it all it's also completely optional to be in a serious relationship with anyone, we can't really "encourage" cishet men to date anyone or change their sexual interests since that's a personal choice. We can ask for tolerance and respect that's it.

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Anonymous #1 1d

Ppl need to be more honest when they only want a casual sexual relationship. Consensual short term sexual relationships can be healthy as long as both parties are consenting. BUT we see cishet men often leading trans women on, keeping them a secret, and ultimately breaking things off unexpectedly when things get “too serious.” Ppl end up being used and fetishized bc the other party is not honest ab their intentions which is honestly manipulative and gross :(

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Anonymous #3 1d

Oh I have had this same thing happen on the basis of my disability, my race, and my body type, so I just feel like it is a much broader issue

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Anonymous #1 1d

Yes! It can apply to so much I just kept with just trans women cause that’s the original topic. I’m agreeing with you

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Anonymous #4 1d

I think my intention was more that maybe teams women just don’t associate with those kind of men to begin with???

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Anonymous OP 1d

Wait what?

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Anonymous OP 1d

Trans* women

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Anonymous #3 1d

I’ve just seen the other side of it bc my ex fetishized trans women and it just was super disturbing how little he cared about them and just wanted to use them as a prop and I just hope trans women know they don’t have to settle with that kind of treatment and they deserve much better

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Anonymous OP 1d

Right so I think you said trans women need to just “avoid” people like this which sounds a little odd bc most of the time trans women don’t realize until later they’re being fetishized after being manipulated. I understand we need to avoid ppl like this but you can’t blame trans women for being fetishized

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