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i am a masc lesbian (you couldn’t tell from looking at me that i’m not a cis man) who uses any pronouns including he/him and i feel like i can accurately describe myself as a man. can i call myself a lesbian? im curious what the line is for you people
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Anonymous 6w

i don’t see why you couldn’t call yourself a lesbian

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Anonymous 6w

i asked this kind of question and people took it as me saying trans men lesbians or male-passing lesbians aren't valid 💔 like the people that will say "transmasc and he/him lesbians are fine but not trans MEN" like what if he uses he/him, passes as a man, maybe is even transitioning medically, would you tell him he's fine to be a lesbian, but someone who appears the exact same but calls himself a trans MAN rather than "trans MASC" can't be a lesbian? it's just dumbassery. let people exist.

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Anonymous 6w

As a lesbian, 100%. Transmasc lesbians get a lot of hate, but truly who gives a fuck. Use whatever label you like! Lesbian trans men have existed for ages, and have been so important to the queer community. I don’t get why people feel the need to police identities

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Anonymous 6w

Shoutout bro me too

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Anonymous 6w

Be whatever you want forever

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Anonymous 6w

Use whatever labels you want. What matters is that you’re comfortable and happy, not the small minded people who like to dictate what you do

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Anonymous 6w

i feel like the line is that you’re okay with people assuming you are not a binary man because you call yourself a lesbian, but i’m happy to be corrected /gen

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Anonymous 6w

if youre are more masculine leaning, i think a better label is straight, but if you like fluctuate then lesbian should be fine.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 6w

nor do i this discourse is just pissing me off and i’m interested in knowing at what point some people consider me “no longer valid” and “invading women’s spaces”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6w

tbh i think a lot of that back and forth shit is stupid. call yourself what you want. you’re entitled to call yourself a lesbian!

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