LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | I pinky promise you that the whole “lesbians are mean to bisexual women” thing is a psyop. Most of the girlies are kissing irl, not arguing on the Internet over who’s valid and who isnt.

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LGBTQIA+ 10w

I pinky promise you that the whole “lesbians are mean to bisexual women” thing is a psyop. Most of the girlies are kissing irl, not arguing on the Internet over who’s valid and who isnt.

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Anonymous 10w

idk when i was on a dating app a lot of lesbian women had DNI for bi women :(

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Anonymous 10w

I love when I date a lesbian woman, break up with them cuz I’m not all that interested in them, and then they attack my sexuality saying I only broke up with them because I’m actually not into women… like no I’m just not into you 😅

Anonymous 10w

Yeah as a lesbian it’s so confusing 😭😭 why does everyone want us to have beef??

Anonymous 10w

I’m bi and my best friend/nonbio sister is a lesbian and we poke fun at this stereotype all the time. She’s my platonic soulmate

Anonymous 10w

as someone in queer spaces irl, i never see this being an issue😭 the most i could say is i know a couple other lesbians who prefer to date other lesbians, purely because they what someone with a similar lived experience, (in a similar way to t4t folks) but that never overlaps with biphobia or anything like that

Anonymous 10w

I’m bi and I’ve definitely experienced it. So many people on dating apps explicitly say “no bi women” and I’ve met a lot of lesbians who don’t like us and think we’re icky or can’t make up our minds. It hurts and makes me feel isolated within my own community

Anonymous

#1 10w

I don’t think it’s bi women overall I think it just comes from past experiences of those partners, truly don’t take too harshly personally A lot of lesbians just like to date within the lesbian community too

Anonymous

#2 10w

yeah i agree it’s just rlly sad to see and the way i think if it was the other way around it wouldn’t be okay if that makes sense

Anonymous

#1 10w

Ngl there are also plenty of gay men who don’t want to date bisexual men but you never see them getting nearly as much flack for it as lesbians do for their preferences. As long as the reason doesn’t come down to “ew bi people are icky”, then it shouldn’t really matter yk?

Anonymous

#1 10w

In a way I would agree but at the same time, I don’t think many of us care If a bisexual woman on her bio says “sorry no lesbians!” we would just find another lesbian There’s just really big gap due to a lot of straight women over the years hiding under the term bi for the sake of experimenting which not only hurts lesbians but the bisexual community overall

Anonymous

OP 10w

mhm i do agree

Anonymous

#2 10w

i do agree i think i just never liked the concept of rejecting someone cuz of their sexuality like i get preferences but idk it could also be bc of my own experiences of being rejected a lot bc of being bisexual afab so the topic like stings a bit 😓

Anonymous

#1 10w

I understand why uncomfortable but it’s unfortunately something that happened very often as one build preferences I myself prefer to date lesbian women but simply because there’s much more to relate to with them not because I inherently hate bisexuals I just havent had much luck with bisexual women and thats alright!! the communities are incredibly different which plays a role too But I promise you you’re gonna find somebody fs

Anonymous

#3 10w

Sorry you had that experience, I hope you find someone who respects you. That being said, someone using unhealthy ways to cope with a breakup and being insecure about it isn’t indicative of all lesbians as a whole.

Anonymous

#3 10w

i’m not trying to be the label police, but has there been a woman you were interested in?

Anonymous

#4 10w

Yes, several lol, but like with many relationships once I got to know them more I realized that they weren’t my type on a deeper level

Anonymous

#3 10w

speaking from an outside perspective without knowing details, it sounds like you might have issues with consistent attraction (please correct me if i’m wrong)

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Anonymous

#4 10w

Lol wtf, I’m pretty sure I’m dating like a completely normal person lol dating is literally going out on several dates with someone your interested in to get to know them more and then deciding to continue to date them or break it off with them based on what you find. Just because I haven’t found someone I see as marriage material yet doesn’t mean I have issues with consistent attraction 😭

Anonymous

#4 10w

Trust me, several people I’ve broken up with I was still attracted to but we had different aspirations or I just got to know them more as a person and didn’t like what I saw lol

Anonymous

#3 10w

again, that’s just how it appeared from someone who doesn’t know you or context. i apologize if it felt like a personal attack, it was a brief observation based on the information i was given (hence why i said “correct me if im wrong”)

Anonymous

#4 10w

I just think it’s weird how quickly you decided to psychoanalyze a stranger on the internet who was just trying to comment on the homophobia they sadly face within the gay community…

Anonymous

#3 10w

girl what. 🧍‍♀️

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Anonymous

#3 10w

guess no one is ever allowed to comment ever. my bad.

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Anonymous

#4 10w

You can comment, just like I can comment calling you out for your comment being weird behavior

Anonymous

#3 10w

weird? you’re being weird for being so defensive. i was purposely being open because i don’t know you. god forbid someone make an observation

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Anonymous

#3 10w

i think we can tell why you’re still single now..

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Anonymous

#4 10w

I think you’re the one being defensive trying to justify your weird actions. Again, psychoanalyzing someone on the internet unprompted is weird. In no way were you being open. You found an opportunity to try to pick apart someone else’s brain for your own selfish enjoyment and are upset when they called you out for your weird invasive behavior.

Anonymous

#3 10w

i was being nice before, but you’re just being an asshole. and you wonder why you haven’t met the right person yet, maybe work on yourself first 💋

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Anonymous

#3 10w

have fun by yourself hun, because there’s no point in this one sided conversation 👋

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Anonymous

#4 10w

No you weren’t being nice, you were being selfish, as I said. Just take this feedback on how you should treat others with respect and not try to play therapist with grace and do better in the future.

Anonymous

#3 10w

girl u a cunt js own it atp ur giving us bisexuals a bad rep

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Anonymous

#7 10w

Be mad

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Anonymous 10w

Lol thank you!

Anonymous

#1 10w

since when is not wanting to date someone and politely letting them know ahead of time being mean to them?

Anonymous

#4 10w

you're such a weirdo holy shit 😭

Anonymous

#4 10w

Ratio

Anonymous

#4 10w

If a straight woman/man dates multiple times throughout their lives is that an attraction issue too? I think it’s pretty normal to date and eventually break up especially if you’re young

Anonymous

#16 10w

But I will say I truly believe a lot of it is the straight women who say they’re bi for an experience. They mix up bisexual and bi-curious. Those are the women who entertain the lesbians and create these stereotypes about actual bisexual women.

Anonymous

#16 10w

Cause a lot of people fail to realize that for many bisexual people the attraction for women and attraction to men are completely different. I don’t like men the same way I like women. So I wouldn’t leave you for a man cause he doesn’t have what you have as a woman. Not just sexually but other things too.

Anonymous

#1 10w

and those women are losers, just like the men that put themselves as women on lesbian dating profiles, the average person is still normal tho