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im tired of hearing from west coast + nyc gays like girl i live in nebraska
230 upvotes, 16 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "im tired of hearing from west coast + nyc gays like girl i live in nebraska"
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Anonymous 1w

Iowa gay here who goes to a small, local college. Can’t even tell you how lonely it gets sometimes. Feel like I know every gay person in the state. (Both a pro and a con)

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Anonymous 1w

no literally and they act like their experience is typical queer life like pls come to ohio and lmk how it goes

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Anonymous 1w

Living in a county that has voted >60% Republican for 50+ years straight, these mfs need to sit down and listen to a real small town gay

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Anonymous 1w

literallyyy it is rough out here in the midwest your niche discourse is a privilege we are fighting for our lives

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Anonymous 1w

The massive culture shock when I moved from New England to the Deep South was lowkey insaneeee. Luckily I found the "gay college" of my new state but like... feels weird

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Anonymous 1w

rural Oklahoma here 🥴

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Anonymous 1w

too bad my liberal "safe haven" city didn't stop me from being assaulted, harassed, followed, etc. 🥴

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Anonymous 1w

rural alabama here 😞

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Anonymous 1w

OMG NEBRASKA GAYNG!!!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

to be clear so happy for big city gays being able to live it up but like the discourse and lives they are living is atypical compared to the vast majority of queer people in the US and i just simply wish they would acknowledge that debating he/him lesbians IS a sort of privilege that small town/mid size city gays don’t have like. we all just have to vibe bc if we don’t we’ll be isolated as fuck

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

Bestie I can relate so hard on feelin like a lonely gay in fuckass ia, we gotta survive out here :(

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1w

yesss I live in a very LGBT+ friendly place but if I go 30 minutes outside of town I will be doing my best to look cishet, being visibly disabled is hard enough out there

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

Yoo where in Ohio?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1w

theres actually a name for this, somebody on tumblr a few years ago started calling it the smith college problem. iirc the hypothetical they used was a bald cis woman working as a barista who ppl kept addressing w/ "they/them". like yes its a problem bc it sucks that shes uncomfortable, but thats not a widespread issue. in most places ppl who use they/them pronouns are fighting an uphill battle w/ family members, profs, etc.. its only a problem at a place like smith college, not a societal issue

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 1w

(also to be clear: i hope this doesnt sound like im saying he/him lesbians are an issue. theyre not and if you disagree look it up, dont ask me lmao. just sharing the example bc i think "smith college problem" is a good explanation of the overall issue of "this discourse could only happen in an area so privileged that they can make enemies of their allies like this")

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 1w

although i agree it is rough out here 😬

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