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I hate online dating as a lesbian. Why is all the likes hidden behind a paywall and the likes I do see are people who want a third or people who aren’t my type at all. And people I do match with, most of the time they only respond back with one word 😭
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Anonymous 3w

It’s proven that lesbians have it the hardest amongst straight ppl and gay men. I heard it’s because of less options. Gay men have the most options and straight ppl are slightly below gay men.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

this doesn’t make any sense, straight people are a significant majority of the population so of course they have the most options

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

No they don’t actually because you have to consider straight men and straight women. Straight women have it easier but straight women don’t represent the entire straight community, straight men have it hard because women are typically pickier with who they hu with and who they date. Gay men have it the easier and there’s only one gender via statistics and men are more lenient with who they hu with and date so they have it the easiest(since it’s two men). Lesbians have it the hardest because its

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

two women and women don’t just date based on looks, including lesbians. There has to be something substantial about u for a woman to date u. So when you bring two women in the mix it makes it harder to date. Lesbians also have the most domestic violence believe it or not. So in terms of who has it easier to hardest it would be gay men, straight women, straight men then lesbians have it the hardest.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

none of that is really an issue of “options”, just compatibility and interest. straight people unquestionably have the most actual options for dating in a predominantly straight society, full stop

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Ask straight men that. You’d be shocked based on what they say.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

well no, I don’t need to ask straight men about their dating options. anyone can open hinge or tinder etc and see tons and tons of straight women (as well as plenty of bisexual women who aren’t strictly queer4queer), i.e. straight men’s dating options and then there’s the part I already mentioned, the reality that most people are straight. the majority Objectively are not dating options for gay people, so straight people are left with more options. think about it for like 5 seconds lol

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Lets do some math here= In this equation we assume women are harder to obtain and men are easier. Lets use w for women and m for men and that women are say, 2 times choosier than men Lesbian relationships: 2w x 2w=4w Gay relationships m x 2w=2mw This simple equation proves straight men do not have it harder than lesbians. Straight men dont have it hard: you have the largest dating pool and lesbians have an incredibly small pool of women. Your personalities are likely what gets in the way.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Meant to say straight relationships for the m x 2w =2wm equation

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I never said straight men had it harder than lesbians.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 3w

Ik. Youre saying that straight men and lesbians have similar problems wirh dating. Our trouble with dating is at least 2x harder than straight mens, and tbe reality is yall dont have it hard at all. Its harder for straight men than STRAIGHT WOMEN but straight men do not have it easier than gay men.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Damn yall I just wanted to rant about dating apps 😭😭😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

Bestie ik us lesbians have it hard it took me two years to find one sane girl in all of louisiana 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

Girl why is that so real. Still trying to find a sane one in Tennessee 😭

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