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Cross posting here to hopefully get better advice than what my college peers will give
15 upvotes, 5 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "Cross posting here to hopefully get better advice than what my college peers will give"
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Anonymous 20h

it depends, personally I’m ace and wanted sex because I thought I’d enjoy it and bc it was an act of intimacy. I’ve also had very intense fantasies but eventually realized they were for sensations that weren’t necessarily sexual, and that I felt awful after sex because I was mixing things I enjoyed with smth I deeply did not enjoy.

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Anonymous 19h

Were you raised religious?

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Anonymous 5h

if you have sexual trauma it could cause that

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

e.g. I’m VERY big on pressure, so all my fantasies involved some sort of pressure. it took a while to disengage that fixation with the idea that it MUST be sexual. unfortunately, a lot of intimate sensual desires are assumed (by us and others) to be sexual, and if we only engage with them in sex then it’s hard to differentiate it from sexual desires

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 20h

obviously you may have a very different experience, but I def req looking into asexual/acespec people’s experiences

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