
I kinda have but I’m a gay man for me when I find myself getting too close for comfort I quickly recall a mental list of all the icks red flags and annoyances I have seen the person do. And I also activate my hyper critical personality to persecute with extreme prejudice, any inkling of attraction I have towards that person.
Like for a hot minute, I was very attracted to my roommate who was basically checked all my boxes which are pretty low standards. He wasn’t a republican, was a fuck boy, was nice, was nice to look at, and funny. To kill the attraction i recalled how he speaks about his exes, his friends, he leaves the toilet seat up, he wasn’t the best conversationalist depth wise. He likes drake and still listens to Kanye. He listened to the hawk tuah podcast. He listened to podcasts. He had an obnoxious
Laugh, took too long of showers and would leave the entire bathroom wet almost flooding it, he got corn rows and he’s interracial Argentinian/white born and raised in Florida, he’s from from Florida, he got too worked up when playing video games, he said the last book he remembered reading was one fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish (unrelated but I think that book is about Dr. Seuss’s numerous affairs on his wife)
That makes total sense. I think I’ve managed to make those steps and I’m not exactly attracted to her but she randomly enters my life every few months with a text and I want to say something about it. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I can’t have her re enter my life like that anymore. It’s hard because we aren’t exes so I can’t just say oh I need to move on and what not. I have to cut off a friendship and I have to give a reason. We were best friends and this’ll be very jarring for her.