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LGBTQIA+ 7w
Met my first girl who was a chaser. She didn’t know i was trans. Mentioned it casually and she was like “oh… i like you more now 😏” EW! Thats gross! Why are you saying it like that! Stop!! Pls!!
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Anonymous 7w

Maybe she just doesn’t care and was making a joke? Might not have been that deep

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Anonymous 7w

ik a person my freshman year that got with a trans dude and act would not stfu about it act so off, we then later found out she had allegations/just weirdly touchy with people 🫥

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Anonymous 7w

Gees. Never happy /s

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Anonymous 7w

Why, just why…

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Anonymous 7w

This could also mean she feels more safe with you now knowing you’re trans. Maybe I’m way off but just a pov to consider

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Anonymous 7w

I feel like she probably didn’t mean anything by it 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

Being as she was hitting on me the whole night, i dont think so

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Right like she thought you were fine and wants you regardless of you being trans?

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

I wish. But she started fucking up my pronouns AFTER she found out i was trans and was hitting on me the whole night idk

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

She started fucking up my pronouns AFTER she found out i was trans. Still, idk about that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

its not rly an appropriate joke to make, more so if it made OP uncomfortable. Fetishizing trans ppl isnt funny and it is that deep if she thinks making a joke out of it is okay

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7w

If it was like my childhood best friend, i literally would not care. But i had also JUST met this girl less than 3 hrs ago, so it was just strange

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

Ahhh yeah that’s weird then if she started messing up your pronouns

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

EWWWWWWW 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 7w

can we please default to taking trans people’s reports of transphobia at face value and in good faith, at least here in the LGBTQIA+ group? I’m sure you weren’t intentionally coming across as condescending, but when your immediate reaction to a post like OP’s is to presume they just need a reality check re: how they interpreted the other person, that feels kinda disrespectful

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

Not trying to be condescending, meant it as offering perspective but I hear you

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 7w

regardless of intent behind what she said, it’s perfectly reasonable for OP to be uncomfortable with a comment like that from a stranger. being fetishized to the extent of dehumanizing objectification by an entitled chaser who may have at first Seemed well-meaning isn’t exactly a rare experience amongst trans people

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

tbf she could not mean smth by it AND OP can be completely in the right about finding it uncomfortable, those two things can be true at once. OP did ask why she said that, so people are giving her a reason. that reason doesn’t invalidate her discomfort tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

yeah, “she could not mean smth by it AND OP can be completely in the right about finding it uncomfortable” is exactly what I was saying

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 7w

oh nice 🤝

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 7w

I go by he/they pronouns actually! Ty tho

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 7w

Lmao, right?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7w

my bad I retconned

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 7w

Im trans fem but even WE hate this, i like other transfems due to shared experience and comfort in knowing they get or can sympathize with my struggles or aspirations, the above exchange seems like fetishization, there is a difference.

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