Anonymous #1 4w

Now you’re roleplaying being tired of me advocating for younger queer people. These unhealthy dynamics are not necessary

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Anonymous OP 4w

okay calm down i think i kinda got your point but mind you 19 is not a minor (at least not where i live so don't come at me) and also you know absolutely nothing about those two people involved, you don't know their relationship or what's even all happening and still those two people are adults who can make their own decisions...

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Anonymous #3 4w

What’s the one factor? You’re tiptoeing around the very thing that makes it uncomfortable. Say it with your chest

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Anonymous OP 4w

okay so when two people are in a relationship and one of them is 30 and the other 36 is that also wrong? like is the 36 responsible to say that that's not right or?

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Anonymous #1 4w

All I said was that I find it weird and wrong. I haven’t actually stopped them from doing anything or made any calls to action

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Anonymous OP 4w

The one factor is an age gap of a couple of years. It’s truly not that big of a deal.

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Anonymous #4 4w

Especially any irl spaces. Talk to any gay person who’s touched grass and see how they feel about this lmao.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Cool, glad you have opinion. Ever heard of a diary or a journal?

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Anonymous OP 4w

I ain’t tiptoeing around shit. Just trying to get you to draw a fucking parallel dumbass. There is a six-year age gap. That’s fine, because they are Consenting Adults

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Anonymous #4 4w

Sure, I’m sure I’ll find more people who agree and a fair share of people who also disagree. I’ve been in queer adult spaces as a 19 year old before, and I’ve spent plenty of time getting turned down by people older than me because I was too young. You’re living in a bubble if you think everyone else irl would go for that

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Anonymous OP 4w

right so this is literally infantilizing. what tangible harm comes from a casual relationship between two adults? we really need to stop treating adults like toddlers…

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Anonymous #4 4w

Same could be said to you, since you also felt the need to say what you said

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Anonymous OP 4w

I don’t think everyone else irl would go for it. I think everyone else irl would say “why are you so up in others business it doesn’t affect you at all”

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Anonymous #1 4w

Notice how you mentioned two ages both over 25, and both in their 30s. Clearly the age gap itself wasn’t the issue, but the gap in maturity, as I’ve said a million times now

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Anonymous OP 4w

im responding to you. I cant do that in a journal

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Anonymous OP 4w

It’s not that everyone irl would be up to fucking someone younger than them. It’s that irl, if two consenting adults wanna get busy, most people understand it’s none of our business.

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Anonymous #2 4w

But why? what reasons would one have to have just to engage in casual relations?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Everyone has had plenty to say, but not to this… 🤔 hm

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Anonymous #3 4w

You’re not saying anything I haven’t already heard

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Anonymous OP 4w

You aren’t saying anything true or meaningful

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Anonymous OP 4w

We’re all telling you over and over again that age doesn’t equal maturity and a 19 year old isn’t inherently an immature baby who can’t make grown adult decisions. I don’t know why we’d feel the need to tell you that again in this specific comment.

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Anonymous #4 4w

I stated an opinion and you got mad and came for me, so technically you’re also in someone’s business too. Anything else?

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Anonymous OP 4w

because there is no evidence of noticeable deficits of maturity. thats just a speculation. but also what does maturity have to do with hookups? he isnt controlling his finances or life decisions. the age doesnt seem to play much relevance in the situation.

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Anonymous OP 4w

theres a pretty major difference between stating an opinion on the internet and the relationship of two strangers…

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Anonymous #4 4w

with hefty insinuations that oop is being a predator 😭

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Anonymous #6 4w

NO LITERALLY

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Anonymous OP 4w

In your original post we clarified you think 20 and 21 is fine, but 19 and 21 is gross. Is 21 and 25 fine? I’m really curious where your lines are because I do not understand your criteria.

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Anonymous #6 4w

im almost 23 & wouldn’t touch anyone under 20 with a 10 foot pole bc thats a fresh adult. that’s not a situation i think is appropriate.

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Anonymous #2 4w

I’m getting crucified for saying exactly this

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Anonymous #2 4w

Sure but that’s you. No one else is obligated to think the same about consenting adults

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Anonymous OP 4w

You’re saying entirely different shit sybau

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Anonymous #2 4w

I mean, that’s your call, I respect your personal preference. I’m 22 and I would date a 19 year old as long as we had stuff in common and got along. I don’t think that’s a crazy gap or anything and I think at 19 (especially if you’ve moved out on your own/are in college) you’re firmly an adult and can make your own decisions.

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Anonymous OP 4w

You’re getting crucified for trying to exert your personal boundaries on others.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Also I don’t think I know much as a 22 year old that a 19 year old doesn’t know tbh. I don’t think 3 years has taught me enough to make me some guru.

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Anonymous #3 4w

Shut up I’ll fuck your grandma if you really want your point proven. Two consenting adults right?

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Anonymous OP 4w

Go ahead, yeah. Good luck

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Anonymous #2 4w

What exactly is inappropriate about it? Dislike doesn’t have to equal immoral. Im asking specifically the harm in it.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yes. That would be fine. You can fuck my grandma all you like, as long as she consents, because you’re both fucking adults.

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Anonymous OP 4w

You fucking weirdo.

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Anonymous OP 4w

Yeah i mean as long as yall are both consenting go for it. Would be kinda fucked for cheating but thats the only problem here

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Anonymous #4 4w

I stated my opinion, much like the comments under the initial post did. Y’all are acting like I reached through the phone and forced them to stop having sex

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Anonymous OP 4w

Really not sure what kind of response you expected

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Anonymous OP 4w

You’re trying to shame oop and others for consensual sex…

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Anonymous #3 4w

Nah that’s perfect stand on it

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Anonymous #5 4w

idk why they thought you would switch up from that 😭 like the principle of the matter remains. if you want to fuck my granny or not. thats between you and her.

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Anonymous #4 4w

Never said it wasn’t consensual. I said I think it’s wrong to seek out people who aren’t as mature and y’all went crazy

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Anonymous #6 4w

and also my grandfather but who knows gramps may be swingers

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Anonymous #6 4w

Y’all take everything so literally 💀 why would I not troll him after he said to shut my bitch ass up

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Anonymous OP 4w

You are still trying to shame people for consensual sex…

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Anonymous OP 4w

OP just curious what’s your thoughts on interracial marriage? I have a guess

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Anonymous #4 4w

Quite literally not what I said but keep arguing with made up shit you pulled out of your ass

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Anonymous #3 4w

What’s your guess? That I’m a white man against it?

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Anonymous OP 4w

You dont have to say something explicitly for it to be what you’re doing…

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Anonymous #6 4w

i meant “no reason” as in i don’t think there’s a situation in which it would be appropriate. i think it’s weird for someone over drinking age to have intimate relations with someone who’s barely become an adult. doesnt sit right with me.

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Anonymous OP 4w

were you trying to troll this entire thread because all of your replies have been on similar wavelengths 🙁

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Anonymous OP 4w

Replace “gap in maturity” with “cultural difference” and see how your posts read

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Anonymous #4 4w

Well I don’t have to be doing something for you to say that’s what I’m doing either. I could say you’re arguing in favor of wanting to fuck the youngest people possible

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Anonymous #3 4w

Two very different things, dumbass

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Anonymous OP 4w

You could say it yes. Unlike my claim its not supported by any evidence.

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Anonymous #6 4w

I started out nice, but these people realllyyyy love fucking the youth apparently. I return the energy given

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Anonymous OP 4w

If by “the youth” you mean “consenting adults,” yeah

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Anonymous #4 4w

I could also lie and say I have evidence of that too. Then I could take what you said and purposely misconstrue it to fit my personal view, just like you’re doing

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Anonymous OP 4w

I was in the thread in the original post bud, in no world did you start out nice

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Anonymous OP 4w

I love consensual sex. You seem to think people incapable of consent when with older people. That’s not true

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Anonymous #5 4w

You came OUT THE GATE aggressive

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Anonymous #2 4w

like i won’t say anything to someone in this situation bc it’s my own belief but i will judge silently

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Anonymous #3 4w

And by “consenting adults” you mean “freshly legal”, yea

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Anonymous OP 4w

Im not lying. Im just reading everything you wrote and coming to a conclusion based on the evidence before me

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Anonymous #2 4w

drinking age is so arbitrary. it ranges so wide that basing your judgement of others on it seems so trivial. Whats so special about sex that engaging in it with someone casually makes you uncomfortable?

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Anonymous #5 4w

I actually didn’t, but whatever since we’re all in these comments making things up. 2 + 2 is orange now

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Anonymous #2 4w

If you don’t mind me asking #2 how does that hold up in countries that you can drink as soon as you’re an adult?

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Anonymous #4 4w

And I’m doing the same, now what?

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Anonymous OP 4w

you started off with implications that people are predatory/pedophilic…that doesn’t seem so nice to me

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Anonymous #4 4w

well i’m not in those countries am i?

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Anonymous #4 4w

I love how you guys make up opinions and then say that’s what I think. Very nice

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Anonymous #4 4w

like drinking age can be from 13-16 years old…

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Anonymous #2 4w

either way like i said, im not gonna comment on it but ill be silently judging

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Anonymous #2 4w

dont you believe your morals should hold up across borders/coordinates?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Ok so if you were to go to one of those countries what then? Would you just go for it?

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Anonymous #2 4w

Honestly I respect silent judging. I wish OP would take a page out of that book.

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Anonymous #4 4w

no bc i don’t think it’s appropriate to engage someone who’s a fresh adult at my age. that comment wasn’t meant to be taken seriously tho. my opinion stays the same.

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Anonymous #2 4w

I can respect that. I don’t care what your opinion is as long as you only keep it to situations you’re involved in.

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Anonymous #5 4w

Mind you, this is a comment section. I’m not in this persons life trying to dictate what they do

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Anonymous #7 4w

so whats the point of the “rule” 😭

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Anonymous #2 4w

What power do you think an opinion on an app has?

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Anonymous #5 4w

I said I personally don’t date 19, not that I think it’s gross. Stop making shit up and arguing with shit I never said

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Anonymous OP 4w

your mindset manifests in tangible ways irl though. your morals guide your politics and treatment of people. the thing people are pointing out to you is that you are using emotions/disgust guide your logic. it’s reactionary. that has historically been very dangerous especially for queer people.

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Anonymous OP 4w

so you can post your opinions but it’s wrong if i post mine? lol ok

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Anonymous #6 4w

Right so why is it wrong to have morals about who to fuck? Is it that bad that I don’t like to see people seeking out sexual relationships with people who are possibly more easily manipulated? The law determines who is an adult, but the law shouldn’t be the only thing stopping someone from fucking someone more naive. Y’all wouldn’t say this about 17 and 23, even though 17 is an even smaller gap from 19 than it is from 23

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Anonymous #6 4w

Just because it’s not relevant in your eyes, doesn’t mean it’s not relevant at all

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Anonymous OP 4w

i wouldnt say that because 17 isnt a legal adult. there are heavier power imbalances between a minor and an adult that come inherently. There is not much power a 25 year old holds over a 19 year old inherently. Two consenting adults have power imbalances based on other factors. Which is why age gaps mean so much less when you become one. You are not being harmed by hooking up with a 25 year old when you’re 19. You said you werent infantilizing 19 year olds but youre comparing them to children

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Anonymous OP 4w

So whats the relevance? where does it come to play in the act of linking up, having sex, then going about your business?

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Anonymous OP 4w

LOL where do you get off on this 😂

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Anonymous #3 4w

I’m just glad that it’s not children I’m getting off to. Can’t say the same for some of these comments defending this age gap with their lives

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Anonymous OP 4w

When I’m in a strawmanning competition and my opponent is OP I already used this one but it still works

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Anonymous #3 4w

Me when I’m in a “who can sound like a pedo by using their favorite talking points” competition and my opponent is the comments

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Anonymous #4 4w

You actually could, I just wouldn’t see it

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Anonymous #6 4w

I do indeed think pursuing people knowing they aren’t as experienced or mature as you is a predatory thing to do

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Anonymous OP 4w

how do you know their experience solely off of age? 19 years on earth is enough time to have experience under your belt and there are people in their 30s who have never even kissed someone before.

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Anonymous #8 4w

Thank you I was getting dogpiled by people who think legal = perfectly moral without any nuance

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Anonymous #11 4w

Thank you! I mentioned this earlier because their main argument is simply that it’s legal even though the same age gap would’ve been illegal two years ago. Being 25 (7 years of adulthood under their belt) with someone freshly legal and still living with a parent is just ridiculous 😭

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Anonymous #8 4w

You as a 20 year old wouldn’t be in a relationship with a 19 year old? How is that logical in the slightest? Also that’s your preference. You don’t have to date anyone and nobody is making you. The problem is you all trying to comment on the lives other CONSENTING ADULTS

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Anonymous OP 4w

What children? Are you implying that 19 year olds are children or are you strawmanning?

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Anonymous #12 4w

Again, the entire “consenting adults” narrative goes out the window when you stop basing your dating morals completely around what’s legal (as in the legal age of adulthood, because that’s made up by the government) and start actually using your own brain to determine what you deem right or wrong. “Consenting adults” argument works when you’re determining things like different race or sex in relationships, but if one party is tiptoeing the lines of “adult”, then there’s more nuance than the law

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Anonymous #12 4w

I’m implying that someone who is a much older adult dating someone who just became an adult, with their only justification being that it’s legal, sounds very predatory. The law is the only thing stopping them from going younger. Law is not a measure of right or wrong, he’s just old enough to not go to jail for anymore so nobody bats an eye

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Anonymous OP 4w

Genuinely when I was 19 I felt no different compared to how I am now as a 22 year old. I was messing with people a little older and I knew exactly what I was doing and liked it because I didn't fw people my own age. Stop treating grown adults like they're minors you twitter user

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Anonymous OP 4w

So a strawman. A 19 year old is still not a child when we’re looking at brain development and maturity. The law is 18 for many reasons, it wasn’t just decided upon for fun. Saying that the law is the only thing stopping the OOP from going younger is insane.

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m 23 and dating someone older. I’m a consenting adult, and so is she. Where’s the problem? My brain is developed. I’m legally and mentally an adult, so where is your issue?

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Anonymous #12 4w

That was said in the context of that being their only justification for it. For most people in the comments, it’s the only thing they could say. The difference between a 17 year old and 18 year old is one birthday. They don’t suddenly become full grown and mature adults just because they’re legal. And one extra year only makes a slight difference. The amount of maturity and growth between 19 and 25 is much larger than that. What’s not clicking?

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Anonymous #12 4w

You literally said what makes your situation different. Your brain is more developed. You’re 4 years older than 19, so you’ve had some time to be an adult before you got with someone older than you

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Anonymous OP 4w

Mr strawman, straw me a man Make him the strawest man car door hook hand

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Anonymous #5 4w

Dude at 19 you’ve been an adult FOR A YEAR!!! 22 and 19 isn’t too bad but adding 3 years on top of that is a little sus

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