
I have sympathy if someone ends up in an abusive relationship because 99% of the time there's no way they could have known that was going to happen going into it. If someone got into a relationship with Ted Bundy and it turned out to be abusive, I would be much less sympathetic. A single google search for Scientology would bring up hundreds of articles about it being an abusive scam. They could have done that and didn't.
Let me try to break it down. People who are “fully formed adults” tend to have clouded judgement when they’re in bad situations. “someone from Scientology was nice to me. Church can be that bad.” Then they join and by the time things get bad it’s too late, they engrained and getting out is hard
This comparison doesn’t work. A child abuser is actively abusing a child with awareness that what they are doing is harmful. If someone’s a member of Scientology is does not mean they are aware that the church hurts others. You are highly defensive for someone who isn’t just a lil pissy