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you're not entitled to dating someone just because you're both wlw
101 upvotes, 28 comments. Sidechat image post by Anonymous in LGBTQIA+. "you're not entitled to dating someone just because you're both wlw"
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Anonymous 12h
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Anonymous 11h

Well yeah no ones argued that

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Anonymous 13h

I really don’t think that anyone has ever said this though

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Anonymous 6h

Was not expecting these comments lmao. As someone who has tainted multiple sapphic friendships by trying to date because we were sexually isolated (small town, no lesbians) and confusing emotional attractive with lust, this does not feel like a worthless point

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Anonymous 11h

What does this even mean? Is this ab the "when is it my turn?" Types?

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Anonymous 11h

Literally tho

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Anonymous 10h

“Humans need oxygen to survive” type post 😐

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Anonymous 9h

This is very biphobic

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 12h

Bored and looking for attention

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 10h

some bisexual women feel entitled to the lesbians attraction and some lesbians feel entitled to bi women's attraction by virtue of both being wlw in some form

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 10h

no it's more the bean soup what-about-me-isms 😅

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Anonymous replying to -> #6 10h

people don't argue it but it's definitely an issue in sapphic spaces and culture to feel entitled to someone's attraction by virtue of both having a similar lived experience

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 10h

This is not a big enough problem for you to make a post about it bro

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 9h

low key with all the biphobia vs lesbophobia discourse in this place it kinda is 😋

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 9h

girl i need u to bffr rn... where does this mention bi ppl

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9h

No it’s not because nobody in that discourse is saying that you are entitled to dating someone just because yall are both wlw

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 9h

Like I have not actually seen a single comment or post either way of anyone being “entitled” to someone’s attraction and if you can find it I’d love to see a screenshot!

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

that's fine, i was mostly speaking from my experience in sapphic spaces, if you haven't felt that then i'm genuinely happy for you because it means there's some way healthier environments

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

Do you have ANY actual examples of this…

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

yes, as i've said, my lived experience is "an actual example" even if it's not tangible for you, i promise my goal wasn't to start discourse 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

I’m asking for screenshots and SPECIFICS 💔🫩 because it’s starting to sound like you view someone saying that “a preference that specifically excludes bisexual people or lesbians is bi or lesbian phobia” as “entitlement” when that’s just not what that is I FEARR

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 8h

i mean i guess? i don't personally believe in using exclusive labels for myself but i think they're valid if someone really identifies with that

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

Bean soup??

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 8h

kinda like, it's the hyper individualism of thinking that you should be attractive to those who are inherently attracted to a specific gender

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

Ok so that’s not feeling entitled to them liking you tho. Like if a white person said “oh yeah I don’t like dating minorities I ONLY date white people” and you responded with “that’s racist” you aren’t trying to force them to date a minority you are calling out a bias that they have.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 8h

Girl huh? How does this play out in real life like not doubting it just confused

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 7h

low key this post was abt being a t4t/nb4t butch lesbian and how most femmes/fems felt entitled to my time, energy, and affection

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 6h

Wait me too TRUUUUUUU one time a cis fem asked me after i said i was t4t "wait arent butches supposed to like fems? Like, fem-fems?" I laughed in her face but i was so fucking mad

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