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Dating as a gay trans man is so hard, I HATE IT. Gay men lose interest when they find out I have a vagina and straight men don’t want me for obvious reasons. Gay trans men are rare, and I have so much trouble finding others near me to talk to.
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Anonymous 3w

bisexual men may be the answer

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Anonymous 3w

It’s so fucking rough. Especially being stealth where I don’t love my first interaction just announcing I don’t have balls. Like cmon just let me get laid without worrying if im being seen as a man

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Anonymous 3w

2 of my best friends are both trans gay men been together for over a year you’ll find ur person 🫶

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Anonymous 3w

Feeling this way too much as an amab enby 😭 Everyone who actually respects my non-binary identity only wants to be friends (which is fine, but still), gay guys want to be able to just think of me as a man, I’m not enough of a woman for the lesbians, and even bi people kinda just want one or the other

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Anonymous 3w

Gay trans man here, it’s so rough dude😔

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Anonymous 3w

I mean I’m gay and I like trans guys. I don’t mind that you have a vagina and tbh I think I prefer it

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Anonymous 3w

Oh my god, I’ve literally lost so much sleep over this fact. It makes me feel very sad and like I’ll never find anyone :) I love that I transitioned, I don’t love how hard it is to find a partner

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

The bi men i have come across so far still prefer cis people too 😭💔

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 3w

Ehh. They tend to be weird abt it lol.

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 3w

I wish there were more of em like you 🙂‍↕️

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 3w

I hate having to disclose my gender identity at first interaction, but I still do it. I just try to casually drop in that I’m a trans man or sometimes I’ll just say it outright. It sucks, but it’s a great way to filter people out and not waste time.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 3w

I pray it gets better for all of us 🤞🏼I just tell myself “I’ll meet the right one eventually” and I just hold on to that sliver of hope that a guy I talk to won’t mind it.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 3w

Love this! Thank you ❤️

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 3w

The bi one especially, and not specifically genuine bi people, but it’s too many people identifying as pansexual when they’re just bi 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 3w

I’ll never change my mind on transitioning, I love it and will NEVER go back, but the one thing that sucks is the dating life, it’s depressing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #10 3w

🫶

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Anonymous replying to -> #9 3w

Wish more were like that! And I totally understand and respect that people have genital preferences which is perfectly fine and valid, but I just had to vent that the dating sucks after transitioning.

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