Ok so I’m attracted to gay men. I’m a pansexual nonbinary afab so I know I would never have a chance which is totally fine. I would never EVER disrespect boundaries. I just like to admire from afar. That’s not weird right?
it might be because OP would trust a gay man to see them as masculine if he were attracted to them, to be fair. it could just be fetishization, but it’s often more complicated when gender’s involved