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This is a veryy nuanced take btw. Bi/Panphobia is a big issue in the trans community, and pan/bi people fetishizing trans people (and on the flip side, excluding trans people) is /also/ an issue. A lot of bi/pan people are up front about being bi/pan 1/2
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if you match with a trans woman on a dating app and you mention being pansexual off rip that’s transphobic btw. i’m a woman. no hate if you’re pansexual but it’s irrelevant and the compulsion to mention being pansexual just shows you think trans women-
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Anonymous 5w

Because people won’t date us BECAUSE we’re bi/pan. That bi/panphobia is real and prevalent all throughout the queer community and we don’t want our time wasted. Bi/Pan people: There’s a difference between being up front and only bringing up your sexuality in response to someone being trans. Trans people: You can figure out which it is in the context it’s being said, or by asking why it’s being brought up.

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Anonymous 5w

i’m ngl this feels like a very cis bi/pan vs trans bi/pan issue. it’s a big reason why a lot of trans people are t4t. disclosing that you are trans to people and disclosing you are bi/pan to people are two VERY different things and they hold much different weights. personally as a trans person i do not need to hear what your sexuality is if i tell you i’m trans, i can just assume that if you are still attracted to me then our sexualities align somehow.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

this issue is that if you respond to me telling you that i’m trans with stating your sexuality, then my transness has just become an object of your sexuality and not an independent aspect of me or a possible relationship or dynamic.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

I agree! It’s nuanced and coming out as trans v. bi/pan DO carry different weights. I’m trans AND pan so I’m looking at it from both groups. There’s a huge difference between sexuality coming up in conversation vs. saying you’re pan or bi or whatever /in response/ to a trans person telling you they’re trans. The latter tells me you’re a chaser. Aside from that though, OP /did/ say they view pansexuality as ‘the chaser sexuality’ which in itself is panphobic. 1/2

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

They came to complain about bigotry while being the bigot and thought somehow people would be on their side.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

yeah i don’t entirely agree with what OP was saying in the comments but i understand where she is coming from. i feel like bi/pan feel more comfortable saying those things because they think it just aligns with their sexuality when in reality it can still be objectification.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

it also just feeds the general distrust many trans people have in cis people when it comes to dating.

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