LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | Biggest pet peeve is when people mix up switch and verse. I mostly see it with mlm fetishizers because they don’t actually know shit about gay people but it grinds me gears (haha no pun intended). Like I’m a verse but NOT a switch let’s not get that mixed

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LGBTQIA+ 1d

Biggest pet peeve is when people mix up switch and verse. I mostly see it with mlm fetishizers because they don’t actually know shit about gay people but it grinds me gears (haha no pun intended). Like I’m a verse but NOT a switch let’s not get that mixed

Anonymous 1d

Oh dear…can u elaborate on the difference… -a lesbian who grew up in the south and is super unfamiliar with terms and 100% been thinking they the same thing… 🫠

Anonymous 1d

Also, thank you so much for explaining so kindly 🫶

Anonymous 1d

So, after reading all of that, and having a mini panic, I remembered that the time most recently that this topic came up in my life, was making my HER profile… and maybe this is why it solidified in my brain and made me even more confused:

Anonymous 1d

Anonymous 14h

same, but my secondary pet peeve is when people mix up “verse” and “vers”. a “verse” is a section from a written text or song lyrics, the sexual identity is “vers” (short for “versatile”)

Anonymous

#1 1d

No worries babe I got you. Verse is a specifically queer term and is directly correlated to the terms too and bottom. They explain who gives pleasure in a queer relationship. Top gives, bottom receives, verse does both. Some people even say verse bottom or verse top to say they do both but one more often. Switch is a BDSM term and correlated with the terms dominant and submissive. They tell people how you behave in bed/who takes control.

Anonymous

#1 1d

As an example, you might have a verse who’s completely fine giving and receiving pleasure but does not like to be in control in the bedroom. You might have a bottom who likes only/mostly receiving pleasure but likes to be the one to control the top. You get the gist.

Anonymous

OP 1d

Top and Bottom in the first paragraph*

Anonymous

#1 1d

But yeah basically it can get pretty confusing if I say I’m a verse and someone thinks I’m a switch when I’m not 😅

Anonymous

OP 1d

Oh no, I definitely thought switch was just a term similar to verse meaning like you’re cool with switching whichever way, so I totally have thought of myself as a switch, and I have been so wrong 🫠😭😂

Anonymous

#1 20h

amen i’m from the south too. i’m completely clueless. not to mention asexual so even more so lmfao

Anonymous

#1 20h

Yeahh… I can see why you were confused now 🙃 That’s unfortunate haha but I guess words evolve. It’s just harder to explain roles if they’re being conflated with positions for me. Rip

Anonymous

#1 20h

Haha no worries! Thank you for asking and trying to learn honestly :’)

Anonymous

#3 14h

Valid, that's my bad. But this one's just misspelling whereas the other is conflation. I think if I say I'm a verse no one's going to think I'm saying I'm song lyric 😅 People do conflate switch and vers which makes their actual meanings confusing

Anonymous

OP 12h

fair ‘nough, I just think it’s a little funny to get so fed up over people being unfamiliar with a word while also repeatedly failing to use the correct word yourself

Anonymous

#3 11h

I just don’t want people think I’m a switch when I say vers 😅 For me it’s just mostly confusing to find people who say they’re switches when they mean vers too. It’s not the word really just the conflation of the word but I get you. Sorry for using the wrong word, I’ll correct myself