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LGBTQIA+ 1d
"he/him lesbians aren't valid" bitch trying to overturn obergefell v. hodges or banning gender affirming care isn't valid can we focus on more important things??
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Anonymous 1d

Fr why are we fighting each other so much when we’re already being beat down by oppressive forces

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Anonymous 1d

I truly don’t understand he/him lesbians like I feel like it invalidates so many different groups but I also know that 1. It probably just hasn’t been explained to me well and 2. Why tf are we fighting each other when our rights are being taken away? Bigger fish rn

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Anonymous 1d

gay men refer to themselves and others using she/her all the time but of course when it’s lesbians suddenly it’s a problem

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Anonymous 1d
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Anonymous 1d

Istg the last time I checked, Pronouns don’t equal gender !! But now we are debating over he/him lesbians 😭😭

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Anonymous 1d

this is only a problem when it’s cis straight men referring to themselves as lesbians

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Anonymous 1d

Right?? Like infighting is only gonna help the homophobes we have got to get it together, identity is fluid get over it people 😭😭😭

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Anonymous 1d

as a nonbinary person who uses they/she/he pronouns AND considers themself a lesbian/sapphic, ur so real for this post

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Anonymous 1d

I think it’s hilarious that this isn’t an issue in the cis gay community. Always the lesbians arguing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

i'm a straight trans man and if someone wants to continue to id as lesbian while using he/him that doesn't hurt me personally, i'd rather focus on more important things

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1d

Wait huh? I’m high asf and am probably just stupid but gay men refer to themselves and others as?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Psyop

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

I’m Nonbinary, I’m a lesbian. But we live in a society where only man and women are the genders. I don’t want cishet people to see me as a woman, because that causes me dysphoria. I’d rather be seen as a man. Ie, he him. In queer spaces I know that people will see me as nonbinary, as a lesbian, as queer, and I can still use he him, as those are the pronouns I feel best with. Why would this invalidate anyone. I also lowkey feel like it shouldn’t matter if someone feels invalidated by me. 1

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 1d

2. A ton of lesbians feel invalidated by trans women being lesbians, but we don’t tell trans women lesbians that they shouldn’t exist because they invalidate others, so why do we do that to people like me.

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Anonymous replying to -> #7 1d

This is what I thought we were talking about

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

no this is abt trans men labeling themselves as lesbians

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Anonymous replying to -> #8 1d

fr. “gender is a spectrum until it stops making sense to me” like bruh

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

Literally anyone can use he him pronouns. The original post was about lesbians who use he him

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 1d

Judith Bulter wrote her works like 30+ years ago and the dust still hasn’t settled lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 1d

What a weird thing to say….

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

What, the bickering over labels? The sooner we stop caring what other people think of us the better off we will all be.

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 1d

No no no you’ve got a point. Gay men spaces are like “you wanna see my cock? Let’s fuck” while lesbian spaces are 99% “actually you aren’t valid bc I don’t like it and I’m in charge”

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 23h

Literally. Like just be yourself and stop caring about low down shit. Stop caring about what people think of you and stop forcing what you think on others. We have bigger fish to fry, and we’ll all be better off in the long run

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 23h

The other week there was genuinely an argument on there that sapphic spaces weren’t enough and there needed to be lesbian only spaces. Like girl what 😭 people are still being kicked out their homes and dying over being queer and THIS is what you care about?

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Anonymous replying to -> #12 23h

It’s just dumb bullshit. Just put down the barbs and have fun. Why are we policing others. It’s like we just wanna so badly replicate hierarchy and impose categories on everyone. Live and let live. We don’t have to be perceived and understood perfectly we just gotta treat each other like humans. Not everyone will understand we just gotta learn to be tolerant and say “you do you”

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Anonymous replying to -> #11 21h

glad to see gay misogyny is alive and well in the big 25

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Anonymous replying to -> #13 21h

Someone didn’t continue reading. I get it. What are my words worth haha. I see you too

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