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LGBTQIA+ 5d
This girl (18f) that i(18f) have been talking to wants to move rlly fast and it scares me. She was my first time but we did it after not knowing each other for a long time and now it seems like she really wants a serious relationship. AITA?
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Anonymous 5d

More context. She wants something not-casual but we’ve only know each other for two weeks tops so I feel like I still need something casual. I can’t commit so soon after just meeting someone

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Anonymous 5d

NTA. It’s not your responsibility to take care of others, especially if it causes yourself harm or discomfort. Do what you need to do to stay safe and healthy before supporting others, you cannot help others if you don’t first help yourself.

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Anonymous 4d

run in the opposite direction and never look back

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

Also there’s red flags!! She told me she cheated on her ex and has been very vocal what her type is. She likes blonde femmes but I’m brunette and more masc. but she still seems to really like me and I feel awful that my feelings have shifted after some conversations

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5d

But I don’t want to break this girls heart. It’s just all been too much. AITA if I ask for some space?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

Besides, a relationship requires safety, trust, consent, and understanding between and within everyone involved. If you were to try being together with her, would you feel secure in having those needs met?

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5d

secure in knowing that those needs will be met?*

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