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My buddy kind of outed himself as gay last night when he was drunk but it was definitely a slip up. How can I make him feel safe enough to consensually come out? We're in a masculine heterosexual friend group
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Approach him privately and say like hey, i overheard you say this while drunk, i understand it can be hard to feel accepted and safe but i’m here for you if you need to talk

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

So I should be more direct rather than saying stuff like "I think gay people are pretty dope man"

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

yeah, ik if i had just heard you say that i wouldn’t think “oh he’s trying to show that this is a safe space”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

Thanks for the tips!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

Yeah of course. I’m kind of speaking from experience. I am a trans gay man and started my transition before college and I was passing when I joined a fraternity and became friends with a bunch of straight cis guys. I had one of them privately say something bc he had overheard me talking about to someone else.

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