LGBTQIA+ on Sidechat | hey guys! let’s talk about the split attraction model. it separates romantic & sexual attraction, & opens discussion for differences in intensity & direction. those with split alignments will describe themselves with multiple terms (eg. pansexual lesbian)

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LGBTQIA+ 16h

hey guys! let’s talk about the split attraction model. it separates romantic & sexual attraction, & opens discussion for differences in intensity & direction. those with split alignments will describe themselves with multiple terms (eg. pansexual lesbian)

Anonymous 16h

people with differently-aligned attractions will describe themselves with labels, such as “homoromantic pansexual” if they are sexually attracted to all genders but only romantically to the same gender. since going around saying “homoromantic pansexual” is clunky & undescriptive of community, people will often say they are a “gay pansexual” or “lesbian pansexual.”

Anonymous 15h

Thanks for making this post, very well said coming from someone who loves using split labels like that to describe myself

Anonymous 13h

i have a ton of ppl who use split labels to better describe their identity, thank you for making a comprehensive and coherent post about it!!

Anonymous 12h

I agree with you, but i think in a way this model can be dangerous to lesbians in the sense that it opens up the idea that lesbianism is fluid and we can be changed. This type of model affirms the idea that we can be changed to dangerous individuals like lesbophobic men who use correct rape against us. Again, i agree with you generally, i just worry about the implications it may have if that makes sense? (Btw i am engaging with you in good faith so just know im not looking to argue lol)

Anonymous 11h

I remember the good old days of barely a few years ago on the gay internet when this was just presumed as a fact

Anonymous

OP 16h

the use of dual labels explicitly states romantic/sexual attraction (pansexual, in this case) while implicitly stating the other attraction & the community(s) they’re likely most involved with. in this case, a pansexual gay/lesbian directly states they’re sexually attracted to all genders & implicitly states they romantically like the same gender & may be involved in the gay/lesbian community.

Anonymous

OP 16h

upon hearing dual labels, some may think they are making two separate claims: they are lesbian/gay… and they are pansexual. don’t do this! dual labels are dual for a reason. their meaning is communicated only when together. if you wonder “why is a pansexual saying she’s a lesbian?” then you are ignoring the dualistic nature of the terms.

Anonymous

OP 16h

in case you're curious, there's exponentially more potential dual labels than their are single labels. some examples are below. the picture is sourced from the LGBTQIA+ wiki, which you can find by searching "split attraction model wiki" & clicking on the second result. I recommend you read it before engaging in the discussion in this post!

Anonymous

#6 11h

it doesn’t imply sexual fluidity! aroace people (myself included) have also suffered corrective sex, so trust me when I say I’m hostile to it. this model does not promote forced sexual fluidity, it exclusively addresses how romantic and sexual attraction aren’t always aligned or felt for certain genders

Anonymous

#6 11h

I appreciate you discussing in good faith despite your concerns, if you still have them then do you mind sharing which part caused it? I do want to have an open discussion abt this if you are & to take your thoughts seriously :p