
I’m not the commenter but imo they’re both fine by themselves, but men tend to have a much harder issue separating porn from real life. I’ve never met a girl who tried to get real-life gay men to kiss for her satisfaction, whereas the opposite is extremely common. Porn as an industry is problematic, but a man watching lesbians isn’t worse than a woman watching gay men (so long as he can separate porn from reality)
I personally as a lesbian find it to be creepy no matter who’s doing it. I know my best friend who is a gay man has experienced unwanted sexual contact from women who are attracted to men. He has had his ass grabbed while kissing another guy at a bar by a woman, so it definitely happens